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Escalating on the Date Notes

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! ! I. The Date/Hangout (covered in detail during “Same Night Lays”) ! a. Escalate - Logistically - Move around the venue, Venue change - Physically - Holding hands, shots, touching, kissing - Verbally - Comfortable talking about sex, slut defense b. Rapport & Comfort - The Question Game

! ! ! II. Kissing !

a. In the middle of the date VS the end b. Testing for the kiss - Holding hands - Touching her face c. Setup - Negation “Promise me you won’t kiss me tonight because if you do…” - Paint a picture “What do you think makes a good kiss? I think it’s the gentle brush of the lips when you feel like you can’t resist” - Almost Kiss “We’ve been talking for a while so it’s time for an almost kiss, we get as close as we can get without actually kissing. Pinky swear that you won’t kiss me!” - Eskimo or Butterfly Kiss

! ! ! III. Kiss Closes !

a. Qualification/Question Game - “Would you like to kiss me?” - “Are you a good kisser?” - “Would you rather have your neck kissed or your ear nibbled on?” b. Games

- 321 Game, Staring Contest, 5 Questions Game c. Role Play - Marriage, Romance, Hooker/John d. Direct - Dance floor, spin, unexpected - “You look so kissable right now” - “Close your eyes” - “Shhh” or “I didn’t hear a word you just said”

! ! ! IV. Post Kiss !

a. Be the first to pull away b. Push/Pull - “That’s all you get” - “No more, bad girl” c. If she resists - Be unaffected - “You poor thing you don’t get kissed much” - “You put a spell on me…” d. Remember, you score points no matter whether she kisses you back or not!

! ! ! V. Going Back to Your/Her House !

a. Set the mood before hand b. Music, lighting, sexual props c. Have a reason d. Use a restriction and/or time constraint e. Be comfortable and she will be comfortable f. Have something to do there - Drinks, games, music

! ! ! VI. Going Sexual ! ! ! !

a. Have a reason to go into your bedroom b. Just start kissing her and keep escalating c. Go caveman

VII. Resistance

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a. b. c. d. e.

“Stop” VS “We shouldn’t be doing this” Freeze out VS Play it cool Agree and keep escalating Just sleep next to each other and try again in the morning Kiss neck instead of her mouth

! ! ! VIII. The End !

a. Avoid awkward “good bye” b. The same night - No awkward kiss at the end of the night - “When was the moment you know I liked you?” - Set up the next hangout c. The next morning - Breakfast - Set up next hangout

! ! ! IX. Infield Assignments ! !

a. Do at least 1 approach a day (7 total) and tell 1 girl that you approach this week that you and her should hang out and set it up right then and there. If she gives you an excuse that’s ok. Try to plow through it.

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b. If you have a meet up with a girl, then go for a kiss within 2 hours of hanging out. If you don’t have a meet up with a girl then go to a bar, lounge or club and try to isolate a girl and go for a kiss within 40 minutes of meeting her. c. Whether you have a meet up or not, go out at least once this week to a bar, club or lounge and be “overly touchy”. Focus on doing more touching than you are used to. Be the overly touchy guy. If that seems weird, don’t worry; you’re just doing it this one night. Do it at a bar where you don’t know anyone. Go for a kiss within 30 minutes.