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How To Pick Up Girls From Open To Close Manifesto By RSD Julien

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Main points Opening Go up and just start talking. Оpening is the least important part of an interaction. Nevertheless you must do it and you must calibrate. Opening means to throw yourself in the situation. There are 3 rules: 1. Lower your time of reaction. Normally right after you get attracted by a girl your mind starts throwing you excuses not to take action:    

She probably has a boyfriend I might get beaten up

People might see me approach What is my opener

Taking too much time places you on a downward spiral

and you end up not taking action. And even if you do take action it is coming from the place of:  

it’s inferior

it’s not attractive



it’s pathetic and the girl will ultimately reject me

If you can’t think of an opener – use this one: 

“Hi my name is * your name* “

When you see the girl, approach her immediately! Going in as fast as possible minimizes the excuses.

2. Instead of calibrating before the fact, start

calibrating after the fact. Stop waiting for the

perfect situation, or the smooth opening and don’t try to create it. There is always an element of

randomness. You might get the perfect open and that wouldn’t matter. Opening is learning how to deal with what happens after the fact. Thinking

clouds your judgement, makes you step out of the moment and gets you in your head.

Ultimately you should aim to master calibrating after the fact, not opening.

3. You must set the frames of the interaction from the very beginning. You have to be interacting with her in “a man to woman” type of way. The sooner the

girl knows your intentions- the better. Be

shameless and she will respect you for that. How to set “man to woman “ frame: 

Physicality - Be physical from the start. The

longer you wait - the more awkward it is going

to be. If a guy is not being physical - he is just a

friend. However – always be aware of how your

physicality is being perceived emotionally by her, and always be ready to back off. 

Steady eye contact from the start - A girl can tell anything by the eyes. Your eye contact tells her

how grounded you are and are you retrieving in your head. Be calm, present and intense. 

Breaking rapport vocal tonality. There are 3 types of tonality: o

Trying for rapport - your voice is going up. That usually means you want something.

o

Neutral rapport - your voice stays on the same tone through all the words - you

sound like a robot, there is no emotion behind it.

o

Breaking rapport - your voice is getting

lower towards the end of the sentence. This is commanding and challenging.

These things should be coming straight from who you are. Be clear in your intent. Have your thoughts, words and

actions aligned. This is what is called “being yourself “. If you have a joke in your mind - say it. Fully express

yourself. This makes you authentic and creates value. Girls

shit test you exactly to see if you are being authentic.

You have to be yourself but at the same time you have to let go of the outcome. Be yourself for yourself and do not want anything in return. To let go of the outcome you have to realize: 

There are always going to be elements of

randomness аnd you cannot control them. If you

attach your ego to the outcome it is going to feel

horrible every time something doesn’t go your way.

Focus on what you can control - thoughts – words actions aligned. Express yourself fully in an

authentic way. And then whatever happens - just happens.

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Be more turned on by your own actions than the

girls’ reactions. Let go of the reactions. Success is taking action, not the reaction you get.

Intent and freedom from outcome means “you want

the girl, but you don’t need the girl”. The Hook Point

The hook point is the start of the interaction. Now she

wants you to stay with her more than she wants you to

leave. You can tell the hook point by the anime eyes. This is how you know that she feels comfortable and that she is ready to get to know you.  

Sometimes it is going to happen very fast.

Sometimes it happens slower. She simply needs

more time to see that you are cool. You need to give her a bigger sample of your personality: 

Set the rhythm of the interaction. In every

interaction there is one person reacting more to the other person than that person is reacting to them.

Get her to react to you. The girl will only sleep with

you when she gets to know you. She also gets to

know you by experiencing you( = reacting to you ).

If you are reacting to the girl - she has no idea who you are. A girl wants to be influenced by you. She wants to sense your uniqueness. Girls are looking for the reality with most value. Ways to do this: o

Speak in breaking rapport , short sentences type of way. Overwhelm her with your

presence. Especially in the first 3-5 minutes. o

Be close to her. Whatever you feel - she feels ( law of state transference ). The closer you

are, the closer she can feel that you are clear

in your intent, you are offering value and you are not attached to the outcome. o

Be physical. This amps up the fact that you

are at the cause. Don’t view physicality with an outcome. It’s just a way of expression.

Touch only because you want to. Don’t try to accomplish anything. 

Be the Buyer, not the Seller. If you are

selling yourself - you are placing the girl on a pedestal. But the girls want a guy that is above them.

The Seller frame is inferior. It show that you don’t have any options. Also you

are probably doing this to every girl and she doesn’t feel unique. You have low standards for yourself, you view yourself as nobody.

Be the buyer. Make the girls qualify and

selling themselves to you. In order to do this you must realize your own worth as a man - you are trying to be the best you can be.

View the world through your own eyes. Get to know the girl. Is she fun ? Do you have natural chemistry? If it

doesn’t work with this one - there is a next one around

the corner. The girl wants to feel as if she won you over. When the girl gets into your reality - it’s your rules.

When you look for the hook point - just look for the eyes. Different girls show different indicators of interest. Vibing This is when you are getting to know each other and you start building the interaction together. When you start

vibing - stop setting the rhythm. If you overdo it with

setting the rhythm, she will leave. Overdoing it places you in the seller dynamic. This is when you switch from 80/20

type of interaction to more of a 50/50 type of interaction. Give her the opportunity to talk back. Otherwise it’s not a real type of interaction. She doesn’t talk with her friends that way.

Get to know the girl. Enjoy talking to her. When vibing, create a “you and her “ bubble. This is when you isolate the girl. The best way to do this is to turn her away from her friends. If you are all she sees - she only focuses on you. Isolate her like that, then bounce her

around. The more external chaos you create - the more

she is going to be able to zone in on you. Bounce around the environment:      

let’s go to the bar

let’s go outside, it’s too hot

let’s go to the side it’s too loud let’s go to the dance floor

let’s go say “hi” to my friends let’s go to your friends

This way you become the only constant and this

continuously amplifies that it’s only you and her and

nothing else matters. Bounce around different topics.

Bounce around different emotions. Continuously bounce around.

Another way to amplify the bubble are “conspiracy

theories”. Pretend that she is your girlfriend and tell other strangers in the club that this is your girlfriend. This way

you have your little secret that no one else knows about . It just amps the vibe that is is just you and her versus the world.

Getting her to invest

The more someone invests - the more they want to return. If you are just doing doing doing and she is

receiving the whole time - she didn’t put much work in

the interaction. She views you more like some emotion rather than a real human being. If she starts putting

herself on the line and starts chasing you, the more she wants to get you. Because now her ego is involved as well.

Investing means getting her to talk back a bit ( but not

only ). Some people try to get girls to talk back by setting really boring and uninteresting topics of conversation ( where did you get your dress? bla bla bla ) You need

emotional investment. Put her on the line. A way to give her the opportunity to invest is to say “you can go if you want to”. This way she has to put herself on the line. She risks being judged by you, risks seeming like a slut. Or even saying “what’s my name “.

If a girl doesn’t invest she is more likely to flake on you. She just doesn’t want something she didn’t chase. This principle applies to everything else:

Vibing - give her the opportunity to talk.

Investment - give her the opportunity to invest.

Physicality - give her the opportunity to do something back.

Physicality

2 ways of being physical:  

Pulling the girl in

Drawing the girl in

She has to have the opportunity to get drawn in, rather than you pulling her in.

Vibing is all about the 50-50 type of interaction.

How to proceed Up to this point you are building the comfort, you are building the interaction, you are building the

compatibility, but you don’t really know what you are dealing with on a logical level.

First off, ask yourself what are the logistics. When determining the logistics always ask 3 things: -Who are you here with ?

-What are you doing tomorrow ? -Where do you live ?

Spread out the questions.

Don’t be just vibing, hoping that you are miraculously going to sleep with the girl.

What time of the night is it? Think of the night as a movie. Girls want to experience the whole movie - the build ups, the tension, the drama, and then, at the end, the climax. They rarely want to skip

through the movie - it is very rare that a girl will be ready

to sleep with you 10-15 minutes after the beginning of the

night. This is the reason girls rarely want to talk to just one

guy the whole night. It gets boring. They want the full experience.

Is it the first or the last two hours ? The first two hours of the night Shorter sets

- Less investments on her part

- Less investments on your part - Less commitment

- It’s more about you

- More joking around

- That’s usually when you get phone numbers and you build leads

When you go in, it’s all about you. It’s all about switching out of the logical zone, building momentum, relaxing,

getting out of your head, getting into a more social state and fully expressing yourself. Do whatever you want to

get yourself into a more social zone. The first two hours

don’t count. You cannot pull. Just enjoy it. Put yourself in the zone. Just go in and start joking around.



Find what makes you click. It might be -

being loud

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provoking the girl in a fun way



going out and acting like a retard

Switch away from the external and focus on the internal. Talk to all girls.

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Build leads. Ask the logistical questions to know

what you are dealing with. Usually during those 2 hours you just get lots of phone numbers.

The rule of the phone number: “Only get the phone number when you can’t pull her then and there.”

Don’t just get yourself in state. Use the time to build leads simultaneously. 

When you get the number tell her that you are

going to hang out later. This way even if you don’t pull until the end of the night - you are going to

have a few phone numbers that are expecting you to text and call. 

The frame when you are getting the number is “I’m

getting the number to see her again” and she has to know that.



If the girl can’t see you later tonight - you are getting the number for a day 2. The way you

introduce this is “Have coffee with me tomorrow”. That way she knows that you are planning to see her again. It also switches out of the vibing.

Start getting the logistics for the day 2 right then

and there. Don’t do it on the phone because once

you leave her - her emotions change and the mind always follows the emotions. When doing this, again, amp up the investment on her part:o o o o o o o

What’s my name?

Say my name again.

When are we hanging out?-

What are you doing tomorrow? Are you free tomorrow ? When are you free?

What do you do for work?

This way the frame is set and you don’t have to joke around in the text. The default text for a day 2 is

“What are you doing tonight”. Behind every action

there should be purpose. Texting is not the place to game the girl. Gaming is done in person. Texting is just a bridge to continuing the interaction face to

face in a place where the logistics are more in your favor.

Sometimes she says she is free and it just works like that. Sometimes she resists which means that she need to get more of that joking vibe over text. If

you get her on the phone you are more likely to get her into the state from the night before.

Always have that in mind. When you see her on the day 2 - don’t assume it’s going to take off from

where it left off. View it as a new open. Bring out that more adventurous side out of her. Also you

should meet her in a place where the logistics are more in your favor.

The last two hours of the night: - Longer sets

- More investment

- More commitment

- That’s usually when you pull the girl

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Contrary to the first two hours where you are

bouncing from a set to set, in the last two hours you want to commit a little more.

After the first two hours ask yourself which girls have the potential of you fucking them. Look

around the club, look at your leads, look at the

logistics. After that you have to commit to a set.

Keep in mind that ultimately you want to reach a

point where you have control over it no matter how hard the logistics are.

A pull usually takes between 45 minutes to an hour and a half. Stick to a set and do everything you can to make it happen. 

At that point the sets will be longer. Open - hook -

vibe, but instead of switching to “have coffee with me” you switch to “go home with me” and you

establish the logistics to going home. The way to introduce this is “Afterparty!”. 

Most of the time girls will feel judged if they agree

to go with you right away. So to preserve her social value - she has to come up with an excuse. She will tell you what’s holding her back.

Find the solution to all excuses she comes up with and make her feel comfortable to go home with you.

At that point she should know that you like her.

Always be clear in your intent. To check if you are communicating as a man to woman ask yourself: 

If you were suddenly transported to an isolated

room with a bed - would it make sense to you to

throw her on the bed and fuck her, or would she be thinking “what the fuck are you doing? “ o

If the answer is “of course it would make

sense” - then you are communicating as a man to a woman. o

If she would be like “what the fuck are you

doing “- you are not clear in your intent, she doesn’t know what’s up. 

Always ask yourself, just in case, she wasn’t as in

touch with the subcommunications as you thought - what’s the worst that could happen. Use that as your criteria of how far you would go.

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Create a “Nothing to Lose” type of situation: - There are no repercussions

- She is not going to be viewed like a slut - She is not going to be judged

- She can totally go with the flow of her emotions o

2 things to do to achieve that: 

Take away her responsibilities. Lead her. Be the one doing it. Make her feel more at ease. Make it something that just

happened, and that doesn’t put her on the line. 

Don’t think too far ahead - her situation is going to change over time. Move the girl one step closer to the sex location. Babystep it.

Make her comfortable and be clear in your intent. Don’t hide your intentions.

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