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How To Get A Girlfriend By Jad T Jones www.How2GetAGirlfriend.org Sample Version 1.00 July, 2011 Limits of Liability & Disclaimer of Warranty All the advice in this book is for entertainment purposes only.The author and publisher of this ebook and the associated materials have used their best efforts in preparing this material. The author and publisher make no representations or warranties with respect to the accuracy, applicability, fitness, or completeness of the contents of this material. They disclaim any warranties expressed or implied, merchantability, or fitness for any particular purpose. The author and publisher shall in no event be held liable for any loss or other damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential, or other damages. If you have any doubts about anything, the advice of a competent professional should be sought. No portion of this book may be reproduced, distributed or sold without the direct written consent of Jad T Jones. This material contains elements protected under International and Federal Copyright laws and treaties. Any unauthorized reprint or use of this material is prohibited.

About the Author Jad T Jones has been deep in the study of women and seduction for the past 10 years. Growing up as a shy introvert, he always suffered silently as he watched countless beautiful women pass him by. One day, at the age of 20, he decided to get this is part of his life handled once and for all. He then proceeded to dedicate all his time to the deep understanding of women and seduction. He personally met many of the world’s top seducers and went out and talked to hundreds of women until finally he became a master at women and dating. One of Jad’s natural talents is teaching, so after he discovered the art of seduction, he was very eager to teach everything he had learned to others. The road to mastery was difficult and long for him, but he has found many shortcuts, methods and simplified ways of seducing women; he takes much pleasure in sharing his knowledge with men all over the world just like you. All his teachings come out of a love for women and a desire to help men avoid the struggles and hardships that he went though. So we sincerely hope that this book gives you the guidance and advice that you are seeking. You can reach Jad at: [email protected] Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 2 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Table of Contents Introduction ............................................................................................................4 Step 1 - The Secret Mindset Of Successful Seducers ..........................................5 Step 2 - The 1 Key To Doubling Your Confidence .................................................9 Step 3 - Women’s Biggest Need Exposed ..........................................................11 Step 4 - ABC’s Of Style & Body Language That Turns Women On Instantly ......14 Step 5 - How To Naturally Start Conversations With Any Woman .......................17 Step 6 - How To Stay Out Of The Friend Zone ....................................................19 Step 7 - How to Keep The Conversation Flowing ...............................................23 Step 8 - The Secrets Of Flirting Revealed ...........................................................27

Step 9 - How To Ask Her Out Without Ever Getting Rejected .............................30 Step 10 - How To Use Facebook & Texting To Get Her On A Date With You ......33 Step 11 - How To Go On Your First Date & What To Do ......................................36 Step 12 ‑ How To Know When She’s Ready To Be Kissed .................................39 Conclusion ...........................................................................................................42 Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 3 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Introduction Hi, my name is Jade T. Jones. Now, I know you're thinking, who is this guy, why should I care, and is this a good book to read? I'd like to start off by telling you that I understand completely where you're coming from, because I have been in your shoes. I grew up as a very shy person. I was also only raised by my mother. My father was always away on business and trips, and when he was at home he didn't really talk to us about anything. So, what happened? For years and years growing up, I was extremely frustrated with my situation with women. On one side, I had a huge desire and love for girls. I wanted to have a girlfriend so badly ever since I was a young teenager. But at the same time, I was extremely shy and insecure. I had no one to help me out with this problem. I was too ashamed to ask for help from other people. After all, men should be macho. Men should just naturally know how to get a girlfriend. Well, I didn't. It took me years and years before I figured out how to consistently get a girlfriend in my life. I would have a girlfriend here and there, but most of the time I would spend years, months, or even years alone just waiting, hoping for something to happen. Until one day, I made a decision that I needed to get this part of my life handled. So, for the past 11 years, I have almost exclusively focused on the mastery and understanding of women and dating. And now, I know how to get a girlfriend whenever I want. And I'm writing this book to every man out there who hasn't had a role model, who didn't have anyone to teach him and guide him on the way of getting a girlfriend. After you read this book, connecting with women and getting a girlfriend is going to be so easy and so simple to you that you will never have to be alone again. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 4 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 1 - The Secret Mindset Of Successful Seducers The first step to getting a girlfriend starts from within yourself. In order

to be successful in getting a girlfriend, you have to have the proper mindset. I want you to write this down somewhere or memorize it. Mindset trumps mechanics every time. What does this mean? This means that your mindset is more important than the specific actions you take. Another way to say this is that your beliefs determine your outcomes in life. If you believe that you can get a girlfriend then you will very likely end up with a girlfriend. If however you don't believe you can have a girlfriend, but then you go out every weekend and try to get a girlfriend, it'll be very hard for you to get one. And it simply comes down to your belief systems. So the starting point of all success with women and dating is to believe that you can get a girlfriend. So how can I believe it, you ask? Here is how. Our mind works in pictures. You cannot have anything in the external world unless you can first see it in your internal world, in your mind. Therefore right now we are going to do an exercise. I want to you to imagine yourself with your ideal woman, your ideal girlfriend. I want you to take out a piece of paper and write down in detail exactly what you are looking for in your next girlfriend. Details are very important because the mind works in details. The more clearly an image you have in your mind, the better your mind can help you in getting what you want. The mind does not recognize vagueness very well. When we have vague pictures of what we want in our minds, our brains have very hard time giving us what we desire. So I would like you to devote some actual time to sitting down and listing out exactly how your ideal girlfriend would be, would look like. Draw a mental image. I want you to mention what kind of personality you'd like her to have, what kind of body type, what kind of Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 5 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

intelligence, education, age range. You can mention hair color, race, whatever it is that is important to you. I need you to write down an exact description of your ideal woman. This is not for you. This is for your mind. Your mind works with specifics. The more clear the image is in your head, the higher the possibility and the quicker you will get your next girlfriend. Again, you need to see it in your mind in order to believe it. The next mindset you need to have around women is you need to understand that not all women are going to be ready to be your

girlfriend. After 11 years of being intensely in the world of women, dating and seduction, I have discovered that there is a basic ratio you should expect when hitting on women. If you ask 10 women out, you will have an average of seven that are not interested and three that are. Now a lot of men take rejection very personally. But rejection is not personal at all. You never know why a woman rejects you or says no to you. It could be for many reasons. Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend. Maybe she has a boyfriend she's deeply in love with. Maybe she's in a bad mood. Maybe she has her period. Maybe someone in her family just died. Maybe she's in a rush. Maybe she was hurt by a man 10 years ago and can't trust men. Maybe you remind her of someone that she doesn't like. And the list can go on and on and the possibilities are infinite. So it is very important when going forward and looking for a girlfriend to know that not every woman is going to be interested in you, and it's not personal. People have things going on. Just imagine a woman who is very beautiful but not your type came up to you and you graciously and kindly declined her, her advances. Should she take this personally? Of course not. It's not personal. So I want you to have the same outlook with women. A big mistake a lot of men make is that they only go for one girl. They put all their eggs in one basket and they have their happiness and self‑esteem dependent on one woman, and if that woman says no or isn't interested, the man is crushed. This is a recipe for failure. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 6 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

In the world of dating and seduction, you can never narrow your choices down to only one girl. There may be one girl that you are primarily interested in, and by all means go for her and try to make her your girlfriend. But understand that there is no guarantee that that one girl will be your girlfriend. All the most successful seducers in the world keep their options open. They always go after many women, because they understand that to some degree it is a numbers game. Some woman may not be interested in you today. But she will be interested and ready for a relationship with you two months down the line. In order to be successful in getting a girlfriend, you have to pursue at least three or more women. If you neglect this, you will find that unless you get lucky and you get a hole in one, you will find that you will still be alone. So please do not neglect this. My recommendation

is go after 10 women and then you are guaranteed to at least get three that you can choose from. Another very important mindset to have is the following. You need to know that women are waiting and longing to be romanced and swept off their feet. The whole time they're growing up, they're watching those romantic Disney movies where Prince Charming comes in, sweeps them off their feet, and they live happily ever after. Well, women are still waiting for this to happen to them. You have to understand that these days women are in very pressured lifestyles and the fairytale has died. But secretly they are longing for a man to come and sweep them off their feet. That woman that you have a crush on, that you want to make your girlfriend, she might seem like she is just satisfied, disinterested. But deep down inside, she's waiting. She's hoping that some man will have the balls to go up to her, tell her how much he likes her, and just sweep her off her feet and take her on an adventure. Women need romance in their lives. A study was conducted in New York City with high‑income female executives. And they were all asked the same question. Would you give up all this money and all this professional career that you've worked so hard for in exchange for a perfect romantic partner and Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 7 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

relationship. And all of those high‑powered female executives said "yes." This shows you that women desire a romantic relationship above all else, and it is our job to give them that gift. When you take the mindset that you are a gift to women, and you have such a valuable and powerful gift to give to them, then that puts the power back in your hands. And you can go out and seduce women with the confidence of knowing that you are giving them what they deeply and mostly greatly desire, something that's missing in their lives. You are bringing that into their lives and they love you for it. Remember, in seduction the woman is the passive and the man is the active. You have to take the first step. You have to take action. No woman wants to initiate the seduction. This is your job. It may be scary to go out and ask a girl out. Believe me, I know. This was one of my biggest fears. But after you have read this book, you will know how to do it in a way that protects you from ever getting rejected again in your whole entire life. So please remember all these mindsets. And having these

mindsets will allow you to move forward with a positive attitude and not get your heart broken, not get embarrassed, not get rejected. You will move with ease and grace in the land of women. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 8 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 2 - The 1 Key To Doubling Your Confidence We all know that women love a confident man. But the big question is: if I don't feel confident around women, then how can I be confident? This is something I struggled for for over 10 years. After much study and real‑world application, I have discovered what confidence really means. When we think of confidence, we always think of a man who isn't shy, who is outgoing, who is strong, powerful, loud, aggressive, etc. These can be true, but this isn't the core of confidence. When a woman says she wants a confident man, she's really saying one simple thing. Women want a man who is confident enough in himself to be able to be honest with her. That is all a girl is asking from you. The true root of all confidence is honesty, and I will tell you why. The man who is able to be honest and speak honestly in all situations is the man with the highest self‑esteem and the highest confidence. I will give an example. Sometimes when I'm talking to a woman and I feel nervous, I will just tell her honestly, "Hey, you know what? You are so beautiful and stunning, and I'm feeling really nervous right now, and I'm running out of things to say. Would you be a sweetheart and help me out?" Now, most men would think this is a terrible thing to say to a woman, and it shows her that you're weak, but it's not. Every time I have told a woman exactly what I am thinking and what I am feeling, they have opened up to me in amazing ways. When a woman sees that you are confident enough in yourself to admit that you have weaknesses and that you are human, what happens is they immediately open up to you and connect with you, because they recognize something in you that is in themselves. And that one thing they recognize is vulnerability. The thing we all have in common is that we are all vulnerable and scared. Everybody has weaknesses. Everybody has fears. But it is the rare individual who has the courage to admit his fears to women. I have found this one strategy of telling women whatever I'm thinking to be extremely effective, to be so effective, it's unbelievable. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 9 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

So my advice to you is this. If you are the kind of person who has low self‑esteem or lacks confidence with women, have no fear. You do

not have to wait until you have more confidence before you go out there and try to get a girlfriend. I tried to wait it out for years and years, and I will tell you this. Your confidence does not increase with age. The more you wait, the more insecure you'll feel. You are ready now to go and get the girl of your dreams. There are many times where I've successfully seduced a woman where I was insecure, nervous, fidgety, fumbling over my words, had sweaty palms, etc. But I ended up connecting with her. And the reason is that women recognize that I'm being honest with them, and that honesty is sexy. Because the man who has the courage to admit what he's really feeling, and being open vulnerably to her, that is intensely attractive to her. So the only confidence you need is the confidence to speak the truth in times of pressure. When a woman wants a confident man, all she's asking is the following. She wants you to present yourself to her in a full and honest light with all your imperfections. She wants to see who you really are, and not who you're pretending to be. Remember this: nobody likes fake people. If someone walks up to you and is very fake, will you like them? No, never. So this similarly goes with women. If you're walking up to a woman and trying to fake your confidence, she will feel it, and she will not like you. She will reject your energy. So make sure that when you approach women, you do it in an honest, open, genuine way. You do not need to be perfect. You just need to be honest and transparent. The fear of asking a girl out will probably never go away. You have to feel the fear and do it anyways. But if you're doing it through honesty and through the techniques I'm going to show you in this book, you will have a rejection‑proof system that will allow you to show interest in women with the least possible amount of risk on your part. Honesty leads to confidence, which leads to attraction, so be honest to get a girlfriend fast. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 10 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 3 - Women’s Biggest Need Exposed What is women's biggest need? Women's biggest core need is the need to feel safe. What does this mean, exactly? A core need is a need that supersedes all other needs. When a core need is not met, no other needs can be met as well. A specific example of this is the following. Woman's need to feel safe supersedes their need for pleasure, their need for money, their attraction. It supersedes all their desires. Unless a woman feels safe,

she will not engage with you in any way. So your number one priority in getting a girlfriend is first creating a connection with her. She needs to feel safe around you. In the previous chapter, we talked about the importance of being honest and transparent with her. Honesty goes a long way in making a woman feel safe around you. That's why it is such a powerful tool to use. When you are being honest, women can feel that you are honest, and then what happens is they open up to you, because they feel safe. A mistake I made for over 10 years, and a mistake that men make every single day is that they try to impress women. They try to act confident. They act fake in front of women. And when a woman feels that you are acting fake, in her subconscious mind, what is going on is the following: "Oh, this man must be hiding something. I don't know exactly what it is, but I can feel that he's not being genuine. I feel threatened, so now I'm going to close up emotionally and physically, because I feel like I am in danger." You do not want to elicit this reaction in women. You want to elicit the opposite reaction. Your number one priority when talking with a woman who you're interested in is first, make her feel safe. The way to do this is, be yourself. Be completely transparent and completely honest with her. Do not be fake. When you are honest with a woman, even if you are vulnerable, nervous, or say something silly, she is going to think, oh, I can feel that this man is being honest with me, so it is safe to be around him, so I'm going to open up emotionally and physically to him, and I can stay in this situation, and let's see what happens. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 11 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

A lot of men are focused on impressing women and causing attraction in a woman. But before you can cause attraction in a woman, you need to make her feel safe around you. Once she feels safe around you, the stage is set for her to become attracted to you, because now she is relaxed and emotionally open and ready for your advances. So remember, when seducing a woman, your number one priority is first, make her feel safe and comfortable around you. Once you have done this, you are way ahead of the game, and the possibilities of her becoming your next girlfriends are greatly increased. Safety creates connection, and connection leads to attraction. So if you want to attract a woman, make her feel safe and connect with her first, and then the stage is set for something wonderful to happen. Exercise: Go out and try to be as honest as you can with the women

you talk to. You can start with women who aren't that intimidating to you, and just practice speaking your mind. You can do this with people in general, men too. If you feel insecure, scared, nervous, or awkward in a situation, speak your mind. Blurt it out to the other person. Chances are, they are feeling the same thing. Chances are, they will feel relieved to see the human side of you. Society is filled with fake people, and it is the rare individual who is a gem among the lumps of coal. It is he who is confident enough to just speak honestly. People connect with us most when they see that we are vulnerable and we are human, so stop trying to be perfect. Perfect is overrated. Confidence is overrated. The only thing you need to do is be transparent and real to people, and you will be amazed at how many doors that opens for you. Women are so tired of all the men who are acting and faking. So when you come along and you are honest, you are vulnerable, and you are just...you know, you don't take yourself too seriously, and you say something like, "Oh my God, you know, you are so beautiful. I'm kind of stumbling over my words, I don't know what you're doing to me," she is going to feel charmed. Women love being appreciated. They're not going to take offense to it, and they're not going to look down on you for admitting that you are nervous. They understand you are human. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 12 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Practice this, make it a habit, and it will help you connect with women a 100 times better than all the men around you, and you will be so ahead of the game, it's not even funny. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 13 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 4 - ABC’s Of Style & Body Language That Turns Women On Instantly Now you have the correct mindset to go out and get a girlfriend. And you have the ability to be confident for the simple fact that you have the ability to be honest, so you are already confident now. And thirdly, you know exactly what she needs and how to give it to her. So now, it's time to prepare yourself to actually go out and get her. Body language and style are very important for one simple reason. 93% of our communication is non‑verbal. What this means is that the words we say only account for 7% of what we are communicating. The other 93% is our body language and our tone of voice. In this chapter, I will teach you the basics of body language and style that women find attractive.

So, let's start with style. It is important to take care of your body. You need to stay healthy. You don't need to have six‑pack abs or huge muscles, but it is important that when people look at you, they do not see a slob. They see someone who takes care of himself. Exercise regularly. Eat healthy food. Look your best. It's not about having a perfect body, but it is about making the best with what you have. First impressions are very important, so you want to make sure that you make the best first impression that you possibly can. Style, clothes and accessories: Women judge you on how you dress. Make sure that your clothes fit your body. Loose clothing is not generally attractive, unless it's a particular style such as if you're a rapper, then it's fine. But if you're not a rapper, and you have an oversized shirt and your pants don't really fit you either, and if you have old sneakers or boots that you should have thrown away three years ago, then those are blocking you from attracting women. Try your best to have new clothes, keep your clothes clean and well fitting to your body. Shoes are another important thing. Keep your shoes clean. Women judge a lot by a man's shoes. If you have nice shoes but they're filthy, she will think that you're a slob in your life. So keep your shoes clean. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 14 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Keep all body hairs trimmed and short. Make sure you always smell good and are clean as well. Women have a more sensitive sense of smell than men, so make sure that you always smell good. So, those are just the basics of style‑ Dress in clean clothes, keep your body clean, keep your body hairs trimmed, exercise regularly, try to eat healthy, and just make the best of what you have. Women will appreciate you for it. The next important aspect of attraction is body language. A woman will judge a lot about you from what your body language is telegraphing. A confident man is generally a man who is very still. His movements are slow. He is always relaxed. He is never in a rush. He does not fidget. He does not shuffle his feet. In general, he has a very strong presence, and people can feel that presence around them. Here is a list of body language techniques that you should apply to your everyday behavior. When you're standing; stand with your feet shoulder‑width apart. Keep your chest out. Keep your head tilted a bit back. Keep your shoulders back. Have your back straight. Move very little. Don't be stiff, but just don't fidget. If you are sitting, sit with your legs spread apart. You can also have

your arms spread apart. Lean back; take up a lot of space. A dominant man is not afraid to take up a lot of space. When standing, try to lean back on something. This is called "locking in." The person in the most comfortable position between two people is the more dominant person. So, for example, if you are leaning against the bar and she is just standing there, you are more comfortable than her. This sub‑communicates that you are higher value, and that she is working hard for your approval. This causes attraction at a subconscious level in women's minds. Smile: A confident man always smiles. He feels good, he feels relaxed. All seduction comes down to one simple thing. If you can be relaxed around women, then you can have more women than you ever dreamed of. It all comes down to just being relaxed. A lot of men forget to smile, because they're either nervous, or they're trying too hard to be dominant. Always remember to smile. A smile is inviting. It is open. It makes her feel safe, which satisfies her biggest Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 15 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

need. It telegraphs that you are living in a wonderful, fun reality, and everyone should come and join you in that reality. A confident man keeps good eye contact. Never break eye contact before the woman does. If you break eye contact with a girl before she looks away, you have displayed that you are submissive to her. Always make sure the woman is the one who looks away first. This demonstrates to her that you are the stronger one, because women always desire a man who is at least a bit more powerful than she is. Why? Because women's biggest need is to feel safe, so they need to know that the man can keep her safe. Speech: Speak slowly in a calm, controlled manner. Let there be bass in your voice at all times. When you have bass in your voice, your chest vibrates when you speak. You can practice this at home. Eyes: Keep your eyes light and playful. Gaze at her with ease, and not with some intense stalker stare. These are some basic style and body language techniques that will help you amplify attraction in the women that you talk to. Exercise: ‑ Stand in front of a mirror and implement all these body language techniques that you have learned in this chapter. Practice them at home, and slowly add them to your repertoire day‑by‑day, and everyday interactions, whether it's with women you're attracted to, or just with people in general. Once you adopt these body language and style habits, people will

perceive you as more attractive and more confident. Once you have this style and body language done, you will see that women will be attracted to you before you even say a single word. Remember, body language accounts for 93 % of communication, so do not neglect it. It is much more important than the simple words you say when you talk to the girl you like. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 16 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 5 - How To Naturally Start Conversations With Any Woman Now that you are ready, you are going to go and talk to the girl that you like. For a lot of men, this could be the most intimidating step in getting a girlfriend. I completely understand your fears, and I have been there a 100 times before. The rest of this book is going to teach you how to express your interest in women with risking very little embarrassment or rejection. So take a deep breath, relax, and put all your worries aside. We are going to make this as easy and as painless as it can possibly be. When you want to go and talk to that girl you like, the first thing you need to do is smile. Remember, you are a man. You are bigger than her, and if she does not know you, you are even a threat to her. A smile tells her that you are safe, and it's OK for her to talk to you. The second important thing you need to do is make strong eye contact with her. When I say strong, I do not mean intense. I just mean, have the strength to look her straight in the eye and not look away. People who have shifty eyes or people who look down at the ground elicit suspicion in other people. You want her to feel safe around you. By looking her straight in the eye, she can tell that you're not there to lie to her. She can tell that you're not hiding anything. She knows that men who cannot look in her eyes are men who are hiding something, and she closes herself off to those men. So make sure when you go and talk to the woman you're interested in, give her a big smile, be friendly, and make strong eye contact. The gaze in your eyes should be soft, lighthearted, playful, and friendly. Warning: Do not look at her in a sexual way. Do not go into the conversation with a sexual vibe. This will turn her off and make you seem creepy. The vibe you want to give off when you first go and talk to a woman is that of lighthearted, playful, easygoing, fun. The basic unspoken message is, "Hey, you seem interesting. I think I'm just going to come and talk to you for a bit." When you open a

conversation with a girl in this way, it sets the stage for her to feel safe and connected with you. And now that she's open, you can have a nice, easygoing conversation together. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 17 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Exercise: Go out and start neutral conversations with women. See how well you can keep your smile and your constant eye contact with them. Practice this enough that it becomes a natural habit, so that the next time you meet the woman of your dreams, you will be able to look her straight in the eye, give her that playful smile, and open her up to be receptive to all your advances. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 18 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 6 - How To Stay Out Of The Friend Zone A lot of men make the mistake of not expressing their interest in a woman and ending up in the friend zone. If you do not somehow communicate to the woman that you are interested in her, then she is going to think you are just being friendly. And then she will slot you in the friend zone. The friend zone is somewhere you want to avoid at all costs, because once a woman puts you into the friend zone, it is almost impossible for you to get out. The best and simplest way to prevent this from happening is by giving her a genuine compliment by verbally expressing your interest in her in an indirect way. A woman will understand that you are not just talking to her because you want to be friends with her but because you are interested in something more intimate. It is critical that you set the frame of the relationship very early on. By complimenting her early on, you are setting the frame that this is a romantic interaction and not just an innocent friendly exchange. The good thing about giving a woman a compliment is that it doesn't leave you vulnerable. On one side it shows her that you are romantically interested in her but on another side it keeps her wondering that is he interested in me or is he just giving me a compliment? So, by giving her a compliment you are not giving all your cards away but at the same time, you are keeping yourself out of the friend zone and you are also letting her know that this is a romantic interaction and not just a platonic one. Don't be afraid to compliment a woman. WOMAN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED.

The beauty industry is a multi‑billion dollar industry. It is therefore a reason because women love to look good, and women long to be appreciated. Think of women as flowers and you the warm sun. Flowers need the warm rays of the sun to shine upon them in order for the flowers to blossom. Women need the heat of your genuine appreciation in order for their souls to blossom. I never get a bad reaction when I compliment a woman. Giving a Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 19 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

woman a genuine compliment, especially at a time when she doesn't expect it, makes her open up to you in ways that are astounding. Women long, yearn and need your appreciation and your compliments. So do not be afraid to give them. The way to give a compliment‑ Learning to give women compliments is a sort of art form. Here are some specific guidelines that will help you. When you are coffective unless the woman is younger, and not used to men's attention. A much more powerful way to compliment a woman is to compliment her on something very specific. You can compliment her on the way she speaks, the way her eyes sparkle, the way her dress complements her body so well. You can compliment the way she moves, the way she walks. You can compliment her on the way she smells, her beautiful smile, the sparkle in her eye. The more genuine and specific your compliment is, the better it will be received. Women receive thousands of compliments during their lifetimes, but most of those compliments are superficial and general. A beautiful woman has heard 'Oh my God, you are so beautiful' a thousand times. But it is the rare man who will point out the specifics of what makes her so attractive that will sweep her off her feet. So be specific in your compliments and you will see that they have such a huge impact in regards to opening up women to you. Another advantage of giving women compliments is this‑ When you give a woman a compliment, you are putting yourself out there. You are putting your ego on the line and she recognizes this fully. Women appreciate men who are brave and confident enough to speak their minds. By complimenting her in a genuine way, you are being honest. And

honesty lets her feel safe, and when she is safe, she opens up emotionally and when she has opened up emotionally she is ready to be attracted to you. By complimenting women regularly, you are setting yourself apart from over 95% of the men out there who just give general thoughtless compliments. The time to give a woman a compliment is as soon as possible. If you start Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 20 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

talking to a woman, you can compliment her within the first five seconds of talking to her. One thing I like to do is when a woman is talking to me, in the first 30 seconds I will just interrupt her and I will say something like 'Oh my God, I am sorry to interrupt you but your eyes are just so stunning. I just had to tell you.' The specific words don't matter. Say what's really in your heart because that's what will give the most impact. If you prepare a compliment at home and then go and try to use it on a woman, chances are it won't be nearly as impactful as if you just speak your mind at the moment. A cautionary tip is, do not give an overly sexual compliment such as 'Wow I would really love to take you home and bang you right now.' Keep your compliments non‑sexual. When a woman first meets you, she is not ready to get sexual with you in any way, shape or form, just yet. Be patient until you reach the next steps. Exercise: Make complimenting people, a habit. From now on, whenever you are in the supermarket, on the street, at school or at work or wherever, anytime you see something that you admire in another person, make it a point to compliment them. Make it in a very casual, matter of fact way and just make it a habit to appreciate people. I have personally adopted this habit and still practice it today. Every time I see a beautiful woman, I compliment her. Every time I see a person I admire, I compliment them. I compliment men, I compliment women, I compliment anyone who deserves a compliment. Do not hold compliments back; because once it becomes a habit, then it comes out a lot more genuinely when you need it most. So the next time you meet the woman of your dreams that compliment will just flow off your tongue and have such a high impact that she will just love you for it and be open to connect with you and take things to the next level.

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she might slot you in a friend zone and the friend zone is usually a life sentence. So stay away from it at all costs! Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 22 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 7 - How to Keep The Conversation Flowing Okay, so now that you've complimented her and she has responded positively, you know that she might be interested. So now you can continue seducing her. If a woman receives your compliment in a negative way, then chances are she's not interested in you. And you should probably cut your losses and move on to the next girl. But provided that she is responding to you positively so far, it is time to continue the conversation forward. Keeping a conversation flowing was my biggest fear when it came to women. Growing up I was very shy, insecure and quiet. I will tell you now in all honesty that I am a very quiet person. Even when I'm with my closest friends I tend not to talk very much. So keeping a conversation flowing was my biggest fear when it came to seducing women. In this chapter we are going to learn how to keep the conversation flowing easily and effortlessly so that both of you may be relaxed and enjoy the process. First, let's put down some guidelines for your conversation. When you're talking to the girl you like, you must keep the conversation lighthearted and playful. Do not talk about anything negative and do not talk about anything serious. You want her to associate you with feeling good, not feeling bad. So make sure all your conversations with the girl you're interested in are lighthearted, playful, and fun. The more you guys can laugh together the more successful your seduction will be. But if you're not naturally that funny, I know I'm not that funny, then don't worry. Being funny is not a prerequisite to successfully seducing a girl and making her your girlfriend. All you need to do is be positive, lighthearted, playful, and fun. Next we will explore how to stay lighthearted, playful and fun. The foundation of any enjoyable conversation is that both people are 100 percent present in the moment with each other. I would like you to think about an instance when you were with your best friends. And you were all chilling out on the couch, enjoying each other's company, laughing and having a great time. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 23 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Notice that at that time your body was relaxed, and you were not all up in your head thinking about, "What am I going to say next?" You were just in the moment, spontaneous, and allowing every moment to unfold as it does naturally. What makes men turn serious when they're talking to attractive women is this: when you go up in your head and start thinking about and planning what you're going to say next, what happens is you get sucked into your head. If you are up in your head thinking about what you're going to say next, then you have lost the present moment. You are no longer there, present with her. You have left. Your body is there physically, but mentally you're not there anymore. This is a very big mistake that most men make. And it is a deadly one, because if a woman you are talking to feels like you're not 100 percent present with her, she will disconnect from you. She will not feel you anymore. And if she cannot feel you anymore she's not going to feel safe, and then she's not going to feel attracted to you. When talking to a woman you need to keep the connection between you and her solid. And you do this by being completely present in the moment with her, and staying out of your head. Thinking is highly overrated. The truth of the matter is you do not ever have to think about what you are going to say next. Our mind comes in two parts. We have the conscious mind and we have the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is where we go up and try to think about what we're going to say next. The problem with the conscious mind is that that is not where our creativity comes from. Our creativity comes from our subconscious mind. When we engage in forceful thinking, which is thinking from our conscious mind, we block the creativity and we block the subconscious mind from being creative. And that's why thinking about what you're going to say next actually is what guarantees that you'll run out of things to say next. Because if your creativity is blocked, you will run out of things to say. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 24 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

On the other hand, if you stay fully present in the moment and not go up into your logical thinking brain, then what happens is the channels are open to your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is now able to let the

creativity flow out through you, and you will never run out of things to say because you'll be in the moment. Things will just come up for you naturally. When you're present you hear what the other person is saying more, and most importantly you stay connected with the woman. The best way to keep a conversation comfortable and flowing with a woman is to stay completely present with her. The idea is to have so much attention focused on her that you completely forget about yourself. Focus on how deep she is breathing, how fast or slow she is breathing. Are her eyes and pupils dilating? Is she playing with her hair? What is her body language? Is she touching herself in any way? Is she fixing her dress? When you put that much attention on a woman she cannot help but be seduced by you. Because it is the rare man who gives her such undivided and genuine attention. Remember, body language is 97 percent of communication. The words only account for seven percent. You do not talk you way into a woman's heart. The way into a woman's heart is by being fully present and witness to her. When she feels you present with her, then she feels you, and is connected to you, and trusts you, and is open to starting some kind of intimate relationship with you. Remember, women need to feel safe. When you're all up in your head talking to her and you're not present with her, she can feel that. She can see that you're distracted. This makes her nervous. This makes her feel like you're hiding something. So this makes her close down because her need for safety is not being met. Conversely you can be completely present with her, and make her feel safe and connected with you. And then, if you do run out of things to say which has happened to me a lot of times, you can just giggle playfully and say, "You know what, I'm drawing a blank right now. I can't think of anything to say. Can you help me out?" Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 25 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Or you can say, "You know what, I'm so taken by you that I'm just drawing a blank right now and I can't think of anything to say, but I'm really enjoying talking to you, so don't think it's about you." The point is you can say

anything as long as you're being genuine, and present, and staying connected with her the conversation will flow. You must have faith. It comes down to science. Our logical mind is not where the creativity happens. Our creativity happens in our subconscious mind. And the prerequisite for creativity is full in‑the‑moment presence, is a silent mind. So you have no choice but to be present with women, because that's what it takes to connect with them, and that's what it takes to get your creativity flowing. Anything else will not work. Exercise. Go out and practice full presence in all of your communications with people. See how long you can stay connected and present with someone without thinking of what you're going to say next. This is challenging at first, but quickly becomes a habit. The more present you can stay with a woman the easier it will be to attract and seduce her. Men who truly are present with women and truly connect and listen to women are few and far between. By being that man you are literally separating yourself from the millions of men out here. And this will help you get the girlfriend of your dreams. Go out, practice and make this a habit. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 26 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 8 - The Secrets Of Flirting Revealed Now that she has responded positively to your compliment, and you are having a conversation that has an easy natural flow to it, where you are being playful and lighthearted, it is time that you flirt with her a bit. Flirting is basically playful conversation and playful teasing that has a slight sexual undertone to it. When men are attracted to a woman, they make the mistake of being too nice to her. This does not work. If you are interested in a woman, and you are being so nice to her, she is just going to think you just want to be friends. It is not going to arouse any kind of emotional response in her. Remember! WOMEN ARE HIGHLY EMOTIONAL CREATURES. They love drama; they love the ups and downs of emotions. When you are talking to her, you want her to feel a roller-coaster of emotions. If your conversation is monotonous, bland and just nice, then she is not going to walk away thinking about you at all. You need to make yourself

memorable in her mind, and you do this by playfully teasing her, which is the same as saying flirting with her. Flirting is simply playful teasing with a slight sexual undertone. Flirting can happen at the verbal level, with words and at the non‑verbal level using body language. Some verbal examples of flirting could include things such as 'Oh my God, you are so cute, you remind me of the Power puff girls.' 'Wow you are really special. Did you go to the school in the short bus?' 'Oh my God, you are so cute, I just want to take you home and make you my pet.' You can also use playful, joking, disapproval to tease her such as 'Oh my God, I can't believe you just said that. That's it; I think we need to break up. I want all my CDs back.' 'Oh my God, you live in xyz part of town. Oh I am sorry. I totally can't hang out with you. You are too much a nerd for me.' 'Oh you like xyz movie. Oh, that's it. I am sorry, I think we have to stop this conversation, I know. Have a nice life.' Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 27 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

These are all examples of playful flirting, playful teasing. Notice, they are in no way, shape or form, hurtful or offensive to her. You are not trying to offend her, or hurt her in any way. You are not trying to hurt her self‑esteem in any way. Flirting is done in a way that is very obvious that you are joking. From time to time, a woman will misunderstand you and take offense to what you say. If that happens, you can simply apologize and genuinely tell her that you didn't mean to hurt her feelings and that you were just joking around. When a woman sees that you generally didn't mean to hurt her feelings, her ego, her self‑esteem, she will easily forget about it. But remember, teasing is playful and not made to hurt anyone. So don't make it too personal and keep it very fun, playful and light. The way you can flirt with a girl non‑verbally is through your body language. You can look at a girl in a way that is slightly sexual but at the same time playful and lighthearted. You do not want to look at her like you are looking at a piece of steak that you want to jump on and devour. Remember, you are not yet ready to sexually escalate with this girl. Keep it casual. Keep it cool. One thing that really excites woman is emotions; is touch. If you are in an appropriate environment to touch her, then do so as much as possible. When I say touch her, I mean touching her in non‑sexual

ways and in non‑sexual areas of her body. Take her hand; touch her elbow, her shoulder, her forearm, the small of her back. Give her a pat here and there. Let her know that you are not afraid to touch her. When we speak to someone and we touch them simultaneously, it impacts them on a much more emotional level. Remember, you want to be emotionally impactful in order for a woman to be attracted to you and to remember you and to think about you when you walk away. Also, you want to show her that you are not just a potential friend, that you are interested in her romantically. If a woman accepts your compliments cheerfully, and sits there and has a conversation with you, and playfully teases you back and forth and flirts with you, then that's a pretty big sign that she may be interested in you. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 28 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Remember! WOMEN ARE VERY EMOTIONAL CREATURES. You want to create a roller-coaster of emotions when you talk to them. Playfully tease at any opportunity that arises. Don't be afraid to tease. The last thing a woman wants is some boring guy to just be nice to her. Everyone is nice to her. Be different, be that guy that's going to make her his girlfriend. Exercise: When you go out and have conversations with women, or even with men, make an effort to see how much you can playfully tease with them. Make it a habit of not taking your conversations and interactions with people so seriously. Don't take yourself or other people too seriously. See how much playful banter you can throw back and forth between you and another person. Flirting is a skill that will be developed over time and practice. So practice at every chance you get. Just because you are not seducing a specific woman, you can still tease her playfully, just to get your practice going. Remember, the more you practice something, the better you get at it. So, once the woman of your dreams shows up in front of you, you'll be ready to tease her playfully, and flirt with her and make her feel that emotional rollercoaster that will have her absolutely loving your company. The main thing to learn about flirting is this. Flirting is a playful, lighthearted activity. It is meant to be fun for both people. So don't take it too seriously, and have fun with it. Women love a man with a sense of

humor. And when you flirt with a woman, you are demonstrating to her that you have a great personality that she can fall in love with. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 29 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 9 - How To Ask Her Out Without Ever Getting Rejected Now that you've successfully walked up to her and had a playful, entertaining conversation with her, it is time to ask her out. Do not wait too long to do this. Hesitation is the enemy of seduction. The more quickly you act, the higher your success rate will be with women. The man who hesitates often loses many opportunities that would have otherwise been there for him. So if you have had a great conversation with a girl, and she is smiling and enjoying your company, it is time to ask her out. Don't delay. Don't procrastinate. Many men make the mistake of believing that they could do it later. But this is the biggest mistake you can make. Remember, women are highly emotional creatures. Women are also very impulsive and in the moment creatures. Just because a woman is laughing and having a great time with you now, it does not mean that she'll be in that same mood the next time you see her. The way a woman is feeling in the moment will determine her response to you. If you believe that you can have a wonderful conversation with a woman today and then wait one week and then ask her out, seven days later, what you are doing is putting a huge, unnecessary risk on yourself. Seven days later she might have her period, something bad might have happened to her, she might be tired, or she might have forgotten about your great conversation altogether. And then when you ask her out, it's going to be incongruent, it's going to seem like it's coming out of the blue. And it just probably won't work, where the chances are a lot less likely. You need to ask a woman out when the flirtation is fresh in her mind. The best time to do it is always now. The sooner you ask a woman out the better. This is of course a generalization, but it is generally true. So now that you've been having a wonderful conversation it's time to ask her out. Now, for men this is one of the scariest times, because we are afraid of rejection. Just as women's biggest core need is the need to feel safe,

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fear rejection so much. Because if we ask a woman out and she says, "No," our biggest core need of approval has been violated, and this makes us very scared. I am now going to teach you a way to rejection‑proof yourself from women for the rest of your life. I am very happy to tell you right now that that there is a way that you'd never have to ask a woman out again in your life. The way I ask a woman out now is in the following method. Using this method there is no room for a woman to reject me. I am sure you are very excited to learn this method, so let's get on with it. Instead of asking a woman a question, "Would you go out with me?" what you're going to do is you're going to offer her an invitation. Instead of saying to a girl, "Would you go out with me for dinner next Friday?" you can say, "I am going out next Friday for dinner. You should join me." What you are doing is simply extending out an invitation. You are inviting her into your life. You are inviting her to come along with you to an activity that you are already doing anyways. Using an invitation instead of a request does a lot of positive things for both you and her. First of all, if you invite her out to join you and she says, "No," she is not rejecting you, and it won't make it awkward for her or for you. Example. "I am going out for some beers on Wednesday night, you should join me." And then she says, "Oh, sorry, I'm busy on Wednesday," you can just say, "Oh, OK, but you're still invited if you change your mind." That's very casual. No one feels hurt, no one feels awkward and everything is cool. Inviting a woman to tag along with you takes all the pressure off of her. Women hate to reject men, despite what you may believe. When you invite a woman instead of asking her out, that takes all the pressure off of her, and she really feels good about that. And a lot of times if she is interested, she would say "Yes, I would love to join you." Inviting her to come join you on an activity that you're already going to do also sub‑communicates to her that you have a life, that you are not desperate, and that you are just a casual, friendly person, who is safe to be around. It Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 31 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

shows that you are not dependent on her for your happiness. And women love to see that in a man. So now you have a rejection‑proof method of asking women out. Just invite them along to some activity that you're already doing, and they can either accept and join, or refuse, but nobody feels rejected, nobody feels awkward, and nobody feels bad. Exercise. Make it a habit to invite people to activities that you are already going to do. Once you make this a habit, it will come across a lot more naturally when you're saying it to the woman who you're interested in. Remember, all you're doing is saying, "I'm going to XYZ place on this day. You should come. It would be fun." That's all you're doing, is inviting them. It's casual, it's low pressure, and it's no problem if they say no. If a woman tells you that she would love to come, but she's busy on that day, you can just casually say, "OK, no problem, let's just keep in touch and we can hang out some other time. What's the best way to contact you?" Then she will either give you her number, or her Facebook, or whatever method that she finds best for her. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 32 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 10 - How To Use Facebook & Texting To Get Her On A Date With You Usually if a woman is interested in you she will either give you her phone number or her Facebook. If a woman ever gives you her email address chances are she's not interested in you and just trying to blow you off lightly. Always make sure to take a woman's phone number. If a woman ever says "It's OK, I'll just take your number" then don't do it. She is not interested. If a woman is unwilling to give you her phone number or her Facebook that means she is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you, so you should just let her go. So now that you have her Facebook or her phone number or both you can start to communicate with her. There is no rule of how long you need to wait before talking to her. If she gave you her number then you can text her very soon after. When I'm seducing girls I hardly ever use the phone. I only use text and Facebook. The reason why is that the phone presents a lot of obstacles. What

if you call her when she's busy? What if you call her when she's in a bad mood? What if you call her and you get her answering machine? What if you leave a message on her answering machine and she doesn't call you back? There are too many variables on the phone that just mess up your game. It is much better to just use text and Facebook because that is non‑intrusive to her and if she is not available or not in a good mood it's not going to affect you in any way. If you do need to call her and you get her answering machine then I really suggest that you leave a message. If she just gets a missed call from you without a message it's kind of weird. Make your message very brief. "Hi, this is Jade. I just wanted to say what's up. I'll call you back another time. Bye." Do not tell her to call you back and do not leave a long message and speak to her machine because there's something really stupid and silly about speaking to a machine and that does not help your chances with her. Keep your Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 33 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

message as brief as humanly possible and tell her that you will call her back. You do not even have to call her back after that. You can continue texting and “Facebooking” until you guys meet. The main time when I use the phone is right before I meet a girl. So let's say we're meeting at three O'clock at a coffee shop. I will call her at 2:30 and say, "OK, so are you sure you know where the coffee shop is, whatever? All right. See you there. Bye." Very quick conversation that's usually a minute or less. Texting and Facebook messaging. Keep your texts and your Facebook messages very brief. Keep them playful and don't reply too quickly when she replies to you. You want to show her that you like her, but also that you have enough self‑control and other options out there that you're not desperate for her. If a woman smells any kind of desperation in your communication she will run the opposite way, so lean back, relax. Stay

casual. Stay playful. Keep the ratio of communication even. What this means is that your messages should be as long as her messages are or shorter, but rarely ever longer. Also, if you send her one text you should wait for her to text you back before you send her another text. If you send her a Facebook message you should wait for her to reply before you send her another Facebook message. The exchange should be equal. If you are sending her longer messages than she is sending you and if you are sending her two messages for every one message she sends you back then you are being needy and you are telegraphing way too much interest. She will smell the desperation in your communication and no matter how much she was interested in you she will probably run the other way. So keep the value exchange equal. This is critical. To create some mystery do not be too available to her meaning that sometimes if she sends you a message that is not particularly urgent you can wait an hour or two to respond. This will show her you have a life, you're busy, and you're not always waiting by the phone. Also shows her that you're not so eager to hear from her. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 34 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Women need a challenge. You have to keep her suspended between hope and doubt. Even though you told her you liked her, you complimented her, and you asked her out on a date you still have to keep her guessing because the second a woman knows that she has a man wrapped around her finger is the second that she loses all attraction and interest in that man. Do not make the mistake of believing that once a girl likes you you can switch off and just be nice to her and go back to your monotonous ways. Women need constant excitement and emotional stimulation in order to stay attracted and interested in you no matter how powerful their love is. So make sure you follow these guidelines of communication through the phone, text, and Facebook to ensure that you maintain her interest in you until you meet her for your first date. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 35 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 11 - How To Go On Your First Date & What To Do The first thing we're going to do is we're going to eliminate the word "date" from our vocabulary. The word "date" puts a lot of pressure on both you and her, and nobody really likes that word too much, especially first date. Instead, we are going to say that you and she are going to hang out together. Some people call this a day two instead of a date. So that's what we're going to address it as. Here are some guidelines to your day two with the girl you're interested in. First of all, keep it very casual. Most guys use the day two to try to really impress a woman. They take her to a fancy, expensive restaurant. They pick her up in the car. They take her all these places and a lot of money. And that just puts a lot of pressure on her and on him, and it's not just natural. Remember! If a girl has given you her contact information, communicated with you, and is now going out with you on a day two, she is definitely interested in you already. What this means is you do not need to impress her. She is already impressed. All you need to do is show her that you're a cool, fun, easy‑going guy that she can enjoy her time with and be safe with. So, keep your day two very casual. And if possible involve little or no money in the date. If it's summer or you live in a warm climate then take her to the beach, take her for a walk, take her to a park. My best day two is when I do that. If you have a car, take her in the car and go drive to some nice place, nice spot and then have a little picnic or something. Women aren't looking for anything fancy. And most women get up taken to a restaurant or the movies on day two, and they're sick of it. Be original. The movies is the worst place you can ever take the girl on a day two, because it takes away the opportunity for you two to connect, and talk, and form some kind of strong bond. Although the movies can work sometimes, it is much better if you plan a day

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things like mini golf, bowling, walking in the park, walking on the beach, going shopping together, having her join you to go shop for some things that you need for your hobby. Just try it to make it as casual and as cool as possible. If you can't think of anything then meeting at a coffee shop is also good, because it doesn't cost a lot of money and you kind of have a time limit on your date. So it's not too long, so she's not too nervous, and neither are you. If things go well you can take the date somewhere else, maybe to the movies, or shopping, or just walking around the city. Or you can just go home. Another important thing you need to do on your date is always lead. Do not ask the woman, "So what do you want to do now? Where do you want to go next?" Women hate making decisions, especially in a situation when they're with a man they like. Be the man. Take the lead. Make the decisions. Women don't care if you make bad decisions as long as you make some decision. If you put the pressure on the woman to decide where you're going to go and how long you're going to stay etc. she's going to lose attraction for you. She does not want to think. She wants to be present in the moment and swept away. It's your job to lead, so be the man and lead all the way. A question comes up very often for men, "If I ask her out on a date, or a day two, should I pay?" I am of the belief that yes, if you invited a woman out somewhere, then it's your invitation, you're the one inviting. So yes, you should pay. This shows that you are generous, you have money, you're not broke, and you're not cheap. It also saves a lot of awkwardness. Just pay for her. You invited her out, so pay for her. The important thing to remember is your day two should be something that fits your everyday lifestyle. If you never go to a fancy restaurant then don't invite her to a fancy restaurant because you are misrepresenting yourself. If

she is taken on a fancy restaurant on the first date she is going to expect that you're going to keep taking her to fancy places. Remember! If a girl is going out with you, you no longer need to impress her. She is already impressed. She just wants to see if you guys have a Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 37 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

connection together and enough chemistry to move forward and form a relationship. Remember to flirt, and touch, and just be light‑hearted and playful, and have a good time, because that's all women are looking for. They just want to have a good time. Exercise: If you have a girl you're going to take out, or if you don't have a girl then pretend you have one you're going to take out, and sit down and plan a day two right now. See what you would plan, where you would meet. Are you going to pick her up, or are you going to ask her meet you somewhere? Where are you going to go? If you have fun there, where are you going to go next after that? See if you can plan something that is very low cost or free and that is fun and low pressure, and allows you to be playful in your element, show your personality, connect with her, and just have a good time. If you can bring your girl into your reality and show her your world, that will do wonders for you. For example; if you're part of a band, then bring her to a practice and let her see you jamming with your friends. If you do videography, then show her your equipment, and maybe show her some work that you've done. Whenever you can show a woman a part of your life she feels more safe and secure, and connected to you because she feels like she knows you better. So use the day two to really showcase who you are, what you are about, what your likes are, and don't try to be too accommodating, and think about how to make a perfect day two for her. She wants to get to know you, so give her the real you upfront. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 38 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Step 12 ‑ How To Know When She’s Ready To Be Kissed So, now you are either still on your day two or you're on your day three or day four and you would like to kiss her. There are no rules set in stone

saying when you should kiss a girl, but if a girl likes you then you should probably have kissed her between the second and fourth time you have hung out together. It is very important to point out that not all women are the same. Some women think sex is no big deal and will kiss you very easily. Other women need more time and connection before they're able to open up physically to you. So be aware of this. Just because a girl isn't ready to kiss you it doesn't necessarily mean that she's not crazy about you. Just give her a bit more time. If a girl keeps hanging out with you then she obviously likes you, so it's just a matter of waiting for the right moment to do it. OK. So now we are going to talk about how to get your first kiss with the girl that you are hanging out with. Touch is very important. Again, a lot of guys make this mistake. They like a girl so much, they treat her really nicely and they're really careful about how they act with her and they don't touch her in any way. This is a huge mistake. If you never touch a girl then the leap between talking to her and kissing her is going to be massive and jumping from just hanging out and talking to her and kissing her is going to be too weird and awkward. So how do you do it? What is the proper way? The proper way is to initiate touch from the very beginning of the relationship. She needs to be used to your body close to hers so make sure during your day two and onwards there is a lot of touching going on. Put your arm around her, walk around with your arm around her, poke her, playfully pinch her, tickle her, hold her hand, stroke her hair, and touch her arm when you are talking to her. Touch all of these non‑private areas of her body as often as possible to get her used to you touching her. This also lets her know that you're a sexual being and you're not afraid of being sexual. If you've been holding hands or Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 39 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

arm and arm all day then it's very easy for you to turn your head and kiss her, but if you've been separate all day and just talking then the leap between just talking and then leaning in to kiss her will be very awkward and risky. So the secret of kissing a woman is to do a lot of touching first. Get her used to your touch.

How to know when she's ready to be kissed? When you see that the woman you're with is very comfortable with your arms around her, holding your hand, she doesn't pull away at any time, she stays close to you, when you're sitting side by side your legs are touching, your bodies are touching. Once you're at this stage she's pretty well ready to be kissed. If you notice that she does not move away when you touch her then you can be pretty damn sure that she's ready for you to kiss her. So the way to kiss her is to look into her eyes and just be talking to her or maybe be silent. Brush her hair aside and see if she flinches or not. If she doesn't flinch and she keeps good contact with you lean in and give her a kiss. Most of the times she will accept your kiss and be relieved and happy that you're kissing her. In some rare instances you will find out that she's a very shy girl and she might giggle and turn away at the last minute. If she giggles and turns away and isn't offended then it's no problem. She just needs a bit more time. You can try again in five minutes, ten minutes, half an hour, or maybe the next time you see her. It's no big deal. Just take it as a joke, take it playfully, and don't be pushy in any kind of way. When she's ready she will do it. The first kiss tells the girl a lot about the chemistry between you two, so it's very important that you give her a good experience. The first times you kiss a woman do not stick your tongue down her throat. Keep the kiss very light. Use mostly your lips and just lick her lips a bit, maybe have some tongue to tongue, but keep it very light. Also, be the first one to end the kiss. This shows her that she can be safe around you, that you can control yourself sexually, and that she can be safe to open up to you sexually. It also leaves her longing for more. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 40 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

After the first kiss I like to end it quickly and then just continue on with casual conversation and most times the girl will look at you with a look in her eyes that's saying 'oh my God! I can't believe you just kissed me and now you're just casually talking to me again and you stopped the kiss so quickly'. This creates anticipation. Remember, girls love a challenge. Girls love to be teased. You can go in and kiss her a minute later or two minutes later and the second kiss can be a lot more intimate and intense than the first. The first kiss communicates that you are safe, that everything is OK, and that

you are not desperate. The first kiss is where you give your first impression to her about how you are sexually. When she feels that it is light and non‑obtrusive then she will appreciate you and really fall for you. So remember! Always lead up to a kiss with a lot of touching. If you do not touch the woman you are dating then it will be very, very hard and awkward to find a moment in which to kiss her. Find ways in which you can be close together physically and have a lot of touch between you so that when it comes time to kiss it will be a natural, effortless, and fun transition that both of you will enjoy. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 41 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

Conclusion Now that you have mastered these simple 12 steps, you will find that it is very easy and effortless for you to get a girlfriend. Just remember some of the most important points. Stay positive, playful, and lighthearted. Be fully present with women you're talking to. Show your confidence through being completely honest and transparent about who you really are, and how you really feel. Compliment women to make them feel good about themselves, and make them open up to you emotionally. Compliment women to keep you out of the friend zone. Ask women out so you stay out of the friend zone. Stay aware of your body language, your tone of voice, and your eye contact. Always remember to smile. When you're flirting with her, stay playful, friendly, and lighthearted. And remember, this is a game to be enjoyed. When you follow the 12 steps laid out for you in this book, you will find that getting a girlfriend is a lot easier than you ever thought possible. The days of fear of rejection are gone, because now you have a rejection‑proof formula that will allow you to seduce any woman you want without ever having to sacrifice your pride in the process. Thank you very much for reading this book. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Copyright © 2011 All Rights Reserved. Page 42 www.how2getagirlfriend.org

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