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How  to  Beat  Procrastination

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pro-cras-ti-na-tion  |prəˌkrastəˈnāSHən,  prō-| noun the  action  of  ruining  your  own  life  for  no  apparent  reason   Let  me  start  by  saying  that  I’ve  had  just  about  enough  of  the  irony  of  battling  through  crippling procrastination  while  trying  to  write  posts  on  procrastination  and  how  to  beat  it.  I’ve  spent  the  last  two weeks  being  this  guy,  who  shoots  himself  in  the  foot  while  talking  about  gun  safety,  and  I  look  forward to  getting  back  to  irony-free  procrastination  following  this  post. A  few  notes  before  we  begin: I’m  not  a  professional  at  any  of  this,  just  a  lifelong  procrastinator  who  thinks  about  this  topic  all the  time.  I’m  still  in  a  total  battle  with  my  own  habits,  but  I  have  made  some  progress  in  the  last few  years,  and  I’m  drawing  my  thoughts  from  what’s  worked  for  me. In  this  post,  I’m  referring  to  both  ADD  and  non-ADD  procrastinators  (and  the  line  is  often  pretty hazy  between  the  two),  but  not  those  with  severe  ADD/ADHD,  who  need  something  different  than anything  in  this  post  can  provide. This  post  was  posted  late,  not  only  because  it  took  me  2,000  years  to  do,  but  also  because  I decided  that  Monday  night  was  an  urgent  time  to  open  Google  Earth,  hover  a  few  hundred  feet above  the  southern  tip  of  India,  and  scroll  all  the  way  up  India  to  the  top  of  the  country,  to  “get  a better  feel  for  India.”  I  have  problems. All  right,  so  last  week  we  dove  into  the  everyday  inner  struggle  of  the  procrastinator  to  examine  the underlying  psychology  going  on.  But  this  week,  when  we’re  actually  trying  to  do  something  about  it,  we need  to  dig  even  deeper.  Let’s  begin  by  trying  to  unwrap  the  procrastinator’s  psychology  and  see what’s  really  at  the  core  of  things: We  know  about  the  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  (the  part  of  your  brain  that  makes  you  procrastinate) and  his  dominion  over  the  Rational  Decision  Maker,  but  what’s  really  happening  there? The  procrastinator  is  in  the  bad  habit,  bordering  on  addiction,  of  letting  the  monkey  win.  He  continues to  have  the  intention  to  control  the  monkey,  but  he  puts  forth  a  hapless  effort,  using  the  same  provennot-to-work  methods  he’s  used  for  years,  and  deep  down,  he  knows  the  monkey  will  win.  He  vows  to

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change,  but  the  patterns  just  stay  the  same.  So  why  would  an  otherwise  capable  person  put  forth  such a  lame  and  futile  effort  again  and  again?

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The  answer  is  that  he  has  incredibly  low  confidence  when  it  comes  to  this  part  of  his  life,  allowing himself  to  become  enslaved  by  a  self-defeating,  self-fulfilling  prophecy.  Let’s  call  this  self-fulfilling prophecy  his  Storyline.  The  procrastinator’s  Storyline  goes  something  like  this:

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For  the  Have-To-Dos  in  my  life,  I’ll  end  up  waiting  until  the  last  minute,  panicking,  and  then  either  doing less  than  my  best  work  or  shutting  down  and  not  doing  anything  at  all.  For  the  Want-To-Dos  in  my  life, let’s  be  honest—I’ll  either  start  one  and  quit  or  more  likely,  I  just  won’t  ever  get  around  to  it.

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The  procrastinator’s  problems  run  deep,  and  it  takes  something  more  than  “being  more  selfdisciplined”  or  “changing  his  bad  habits”  for  him  to  change  his  ways—the  root  of  the  problem  is embedded  in  his  Storyline,  and  his  Storyline  is  what  must  change.

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Before  we  talk  about  how  Storylines  change,  let’s  examine,  concretely,  what  the  procrastinator  even wants  to  change  into.  What  do  the  right  habits  even  look  like,  and  where  exactly  will  the  procrastinator run  into  trouble?

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There  are  two  components  of  being  able  to  achieve  things  in  a  healthy  and  effective  manner—planning and  doing.  Let’s  start  with  the  easy  one:

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Planning

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Procrastinators  love  planning,  quite  simply  because  planning  does  not  involve  doing,  and  doing  is  the procrastinator’s  Kryptonite.

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But  when  procrastinators  plan,  they  like  to  do  it  in  a  vague  way  that  doesn’t  consider  details  or  reality too  closely,  and  their  planning  leaves  them  perfectly  set  up  to  not  actually  accomplish  anything.  A procrastinator’s  planning  session  leaves  him  with  a  doer’s  nightmare:

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  A  big  list  of  vague  and  daunting  things  makes  the  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  laugh.  When  you  make  a list  like  that,  the  monkey  says,  “Oh  perfect,  this  is  easy.”  Even  if  your  gullible  conscious  mind  believes  it intends  to  accomplish  the  items  on  that  list  in  an  efficient  manner,  the  monkey  knows  that  in  your subconscious,  you  have  no  intention  of  doing  so. Effective  planning,  on  the  other  hand,  sets  you  up  for  success.  Its  purpose  is  to  do  the  exact  opposite  of everything  in  that  sentence:

Effective  planning  takes  a  big  list  and  selects  a  winner:    

A  big  list  is  perhaps  an  early  phase  of  planning,  but  planning  must  end  with  rigorous  prioritizing  and one  item  that  emerges  as  the  winner—the  item  you’re  going  to  make  your  first  priority.  And  the  item that  wins  should  be  the  one  that  means  the  most  to  you—the  item  that’s  most  important  for  your happiness.  If  urgent  items  are  involved,  those  will  have  to  come  first  and  should  be  knocked  out  as quickly  as  possible  in  order  to  make  way  for  the  important  items  (procrastinators  love  to  use unimportant  but  urgent  items  as  an  excuse  to  forever  put  off  the  important  ones).

Effective  planning  makes  an  icky  item  un-icky:  

We  all  know  what  an  icky  item  is.  An  icky  item  is  vague  and  murky,  and  you’re  not  really  sure  where you’d  start,  how  you’d  go  about  doing  it,  or  where  you’d  get  answers  to  your  questions  about  it. So  let’s  say  your  dream  is  to  make  your  own  app,  and  you  know  that  if  you  build  a  successful  app  you could  quit  your  job  and  become  a  full-time  developer.  You  also  think  that  programming  ability  is  the literacy  of  the  21st  century,  and  you  don’t  have  money  to  spend  outsourcing  development  anyway,  so you  decide  to  anoint  “Learn  how  to  code”  the  winning  item  on  your  list—the  number  one  priority. Exciting,  right? Well,  no,  because  “Learn  how  to  code”  is  an  intensely  icky  item—and  every  time  you  decide  it’s  time  to get  started,  you  will  coincidentally  also  decide  your  inbox  needs  to  be  cleaned  out  and  your  kitchen floor  needs  to  be  mopped,  ASAP.  It’ll  never  end  up  happening. To  un-icky  the  item,  you  need  to  read,  research,  and  ask  questions  to  find  out  exactly  how  one  learns how  to  code,  the  specific  means  necessary  for  each  step  along  the  way,  and  how  long  each  one  should take.  Un-ickying  a  list  item  turns  it  from  this:

  Into  this:

 

Effective  planning  turns  a  daunting  item  into  a  series  of  small,  clear, manageable  tasks:  

Icky  combines  with  Daunting  into  an  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  steroid  potion.  And  just  because  you un-icky  an  item,  it  doesn’t  mean  it’s  still  not  horribly  big  and  daunting.  The  key  to  de-dauntifying  an item  is  to  absorb  this  fact:

A  remarkable,  glorious  achievement  is  just  what  a  long  series  of  unremarkable,  unglorious  tasks  looks like  from  far  away. No  one  “builds  a  house.”  They  lay  one  brick  again  and again  and  again  and  the  end  result  is  a  house. Procrastinators  are  great  visionaries—they  love  to fantasize  about  the  beautiful  mansion  they  will  one  day have  built—but  what  they  need  to  be  are  gritty construction  workers,  who  methodically  lay  one  brick  after the  other,  day  after  day,  without  giving  up,  until  a  house  is built. Nearly  every  big  undertaking  can  be  boiled  down  to  a  core unit  of  progress—its  brick.  A  45-minute  gym  visit  is  the  brick  of  getting  in  great  shape.  A  30-minute practice  session  is  the  brick  of  becoming  a  great  guitarist. The  average  day  in  a  wannabe  author’s  week  and  a  real  author’s  week  looks  almost  the  same.  The  real author  writes  a  couple  pages,  laying  a  brick,  and  the  wannabe  author  writes  nothing.  98%  of  their  day  is otherwise  identical.  But  a  year  later,  the  real  author  has  a  completed  first  draft  of  a  book  and  the wannabe  author  has…nothing. It’s  all  about  the  bricks. And  the  good  news  is,  laying  one  brick  isn’t  daunting.  But  bricks  do  require  scheduling.  So  the  final  step in  planning  is  to  make  a  Brick  Timeline,  which  slots  bricks  into  the  calendar.  The  slots  are  nonnegotiable  and  non-cancellable—after  all,  it’s  your  first  priority  and  the  thing  that  matters  most  to  you, isn’t  it?  The  most  important  date  is  the  first  one.  You  can’t  start  learning  to  code  “in  November.”  But you  can  start  learning  to  code  on  November  21st  from  6:00  –  7:00pm. Now  you’re  effectively  planned—just  follow  the  schedule  and  you’ll  be  a  programmer.  Only  thing  left  is to  do…

Doing

  It’s  not  that  procrastinators  don’t  like  the  concept  of  doing.  They  look  at  the  bricks  on  their  calendar and  they  think,  “Great,  this  will  be  fun.”  And  that’s  because  when  they  picture  the  moment  in  the  future when  they  sit  down  and  knock  out  a  work  session,  they  picture  things  without  the  presence  of  the Instant  Gratification  Monkey.  Procrastinators’  visions  of  future  scenarios  never  seem  to  include  the monkey. But  when  the  actual  moment  arrives  to  begin  that  scheduled  brick-laying,  the  procrastinator  does  what the  procrastinator  does  best—he  lets  the  monkey  take  over  and  ruin  everything. And  since  we  just  stressed  above  that  all  achievement  boils  down  to  the  ability  to  lay  that  one  brick during  that  slot  when  it’s  on  your  schedule,  we  seem  to  have  isolated  the  core  struggle  here.  Let’s examine  this  specific  challenge  of  laying  a  single  brick:

So  this  diagram  represents  the  challenge  at  hand  anytime  you  take  on  a  task,  whether  it’s  making  a PowerPoint  for  work,  going  on  a  jog,  working  on  a  script,  or  anything  else  you  do  in  your  life.  The Critical  Entrance  is  where  you  go  to  officially  start  work  on  the  task,  the  Dark  Woods  are  the  process  of actually  doing  the  work,  and  once  you  finish,  you’re  rewarded  by  ending  up  in  The  Happy  Playground— a  place  where  you  feel  satisfaction  and  where  leisure  time  is  pleasant  and  rewarding  because  you  got something  hard  done.  You  occasionally  even  end  up  super-engaged  with  what  you’re  working  on  and enter  a  state  of  Flow,  where  you’re  so  blissfully  immersed  in  the  task  that  you  lose  track  of  time. Those  paths  look  something  like  this:

Sounds  pretty  simple,  right? Well  unfortunately  for  procrastinators,  they  tend  to  miss  out  on  both  The  Happy  Playground  and  Flow. For  example,  here’s  a  procrastinator  that  never  even  gets  started  on  the  task  he’s  supposed  to  do, because  he  never  makes  it  through  the  Critical  Entrance.  Instead,  he  spends  hours  wallowing  in  The Dark  Playground,  hating  himself:

Here’s  a  procrastinator  who  gets  started  on  the  task,  but  she  can’t  stay  focused,  and  she  keeps  taking long  breaks  to  play  on  the  internet  and  make  food.  She  doesn’t  end  up  finishing  the  task:

Here’s  a  procrastinator  who  couldn’t  bring  himself  to  get  started,  even  though  a  work  deadline  was approaching,  and  he  spent  hours  in  The  Dark  Playground,  knowing  the  looming  deadline  was  drawing near  and  he  was  only  making  his  life  harder  by  not  starting.  Eventually,  the  deadline  got  so  close,  the Panic  Monster  suddenly  came  roaring  into  the  room,  freaking  him  out  and  causing  him  to  fly  through the  task  to  hit  the  deadline.

After  he  finishes,  he  feels  decent  because  he  accomplished  something,  but  he’s  also  not  that  pleased because  he  knows  he  did  an  underwhelming  job  on  the  project  because  he  had  to  rush  so  much,  and he  feels  like  he  wasted  most  of  his  day  procrastinating  for  no  reason.  This  lands  him  in  Mixed  Feelings Park. So  if  you’re  a  procrastinator,  let’s  look  at  what  you  need  to  do  to  get  on  the  right  path,  one  that  will leave  you  much  happier. The  first  thing  you  must  do  is  make  it  through  the  Critical  Entrance.  This  means  stopping  whatever you’re  doing  when  it’s  time  to  begin  the  task,  putting  away  all  distractions,  and  getting  started.  It

sounds  simple,  but  this  is  the  hardest  part.  This  is  where  the  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  puts  up  his fiercest  resistance:

The  monkey  absolutely  hates  stopping  something  fun  to  start  something  hard,  and  this  is  where  you need  to  be  the  strongest.  If  you  can  get  started  and  force  the  monkey  into  the  Dark  Woods,  you’ve broken  a  bit  of  his  will. Of  course,  he’s  not  going  to  give  up  anytime  soon. The  Dark  Woods  is  where  you  are  when  you’re  working.  It’s  not  a  fun  place  to  be,  and  the  Instant Gratification  Monkey  wants  nothing  to  do  with  it.  To  make  things  harder,  the  Dark  Woods  is  surrounded by  the  Dark  Playground,  one  of  the  monkey’s  favorite  places,  and  since  he  can  see  how  close  it  is,  he’ll try  as  hard  as  he  can  to  leave  the  Dark  Woods. There  will  also  be  times  when  you  bump  into  a  tree—maybe  the  jog  is  taking  you  on  an  uphill  street, maybe  you  need  to  use  an  Excel  formula  you  don’t  know,  maybe  that  song  you’re  writing  just  isn’t coming  together  the  way  you  thought  it  would—and  this  is  when  the  monkey  will  make  his  boldest attempt  at  an  escape.

It  makes  no  sense  to  leave  the  Dark  Woods  in  favor  of  the  Dark  Playground—they’re  both  dark.  They both  suck  to  be  in,  but  the  big  difference  is  the  Dark  Woods  leads  to  happiness  and  the  Dark Playground  leads  only  to  more  misery.  But  the  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  isn’t  logical  and  to  him,  the Dark  Playground  seems  like  much  more  fun. The  good  news  is,  if  you  can  power  through  a  bit  of  the  Dark  Woods,  something  funny  happens.  Making progress  on  a  task  produces  positive  feelings  of  accomplishment  and  raises  your  self-esteem.  The monkey  gains  his  strength  off  of  low  self-esteem,  and  when  you  feel  a  jolt  of  self-satisfaction,  the monkey  finds  a  High  Self-Esteem  Banana  in  his  path.  It  doesn’t  quell  his  resistance  entirely,  but  it  goes a  long  way  to  distracting  him  for  a  while,  and  you’ll  find  that  the  urge  to  procrastinate  has  diminished.

Then,  if  you  continue  along,  something  magical  happens.  Once  you  get  2/3  or  3/4  of  the  way  through  a task,  especially  if  it’s  going  well,  you  start  to  feel  great  about  things  and  suddenly,  the  end  is  in  sight. This  is  a  key  tipping  point—  

  The  Tipping  Point  is  important  because  it’s  not  just  you  who  can  smell  the  Happy  Playground  up  ahead —the  monkey  can  smell  it  too.  The  monkey  doesn’t  care  if  his  instant  gratification  comes  alongside  you or  at  your  expense,  he  just  loves  things  that  are  easy  and  fun.  Once  you  hit  the  Tipping  Point,  the monkey  becomes  more  interested  in  getting  to  the  Happy  Playground  than  the  Dark  Playground.  When this  happens,  you  lose  all  impulse  to  procrastinate  and  now  both  you  and  the  monkey  are  speeding toward  the  finish.

Before  you  know  it,  you’re  done,  and  you’re  in  the  Happy  Playground.  Now,  for  the  first  time  in  a  while, you  and  the  monkey  are  a  team.  You  both  want  to  have  fun,  and  it  feels  great  because  it’s  earned. When  you  and  the  monkey  are  on  a  team,  you’re  almost  always  happy.

The  other  thing  that  might  happen  when  you  pass  the  Tipping  Point,  depending  on  the  type  of  task  and how  well  it’s  going,  is  that  you  might  start  feeling  fantastic  about  what  you’re  working  on,  so  fantastic that  continuing  to  work  sounds  like  much  more  fun  than  stopping  to  do  leisure  activities.  You’ve become  obsessed  with  the  task  and  you  lose  interest  in  basically  everything  else,  including  food  and time—this  is  called  Flow.  Flow  is  not  only  a  blissful  feeling,  it’s  usually  when  you  do  great  things. The  monkey  is  just  as  addicted  to  the  bliss  as  you  are,  and  you  two  are  again  a  team.  

Fighting  through  to  the  Tipping  Point  is  hard,  but  what  makes  procrastination  so  hard  to  beat  is  that the  Instant  Gratification  Monkey  has  a  terribly  short-term  memory—even  if  you  wildly  succeed  on Monday,  when  you  begin  a  task  on  Tuesday,  the  monkey  has  forgotten  everything  and  will  again  resist entering  the  Dark  Woods  or  working  through  them. And  that’s  why  persistence  is  such  a  critical  component  of  success.  Laying  each  brick  yields  an  inner struggle—and  in  the  end,  your  ability  to  win  this  very  specific  struggle  and  lay  brick  after  brick,  day  after

day,  is  what  lies  at  the  core  of  a  procrastinator’s  struggle  to  gain  control  over  his  world. So  that’s  what  needs  to  happen—but  if  procrastination  could  be  solved  by  reading  a  blog  entry,  it wouldn’t  be  such  a  large  problem  in  so  many  people’s  lives.  There’s  only  one  way  to  truly  beat procrastination:

You  need  to  prove  to  yourself  that  you  can  do  it.  

You  need  to  show  yourself  you  can  do  it,  not  tell  yourself.  Things  will  change  when  you  show  yourself that  they  can.  Until  then,  you  won’t  believe  it,  and  nothing  will  change.  Think  of  yourself  like  a basketball  player  on  a  cold  streak.  For  basketball  players,  it’s  all  about  confidence,  and  an  ice  cold shooter  can  tell  himself  1000  times,  “I’m  a  great  shooter,  I’m  going  to  hit  this  next  one,”  but  it’s  not until  he  physically  hits  a  shot  that  his  confidence  goes  up  and  his  touch  comes  back. So  how  do  you  start  hitting  shots? 1)  Try  to  internalize  the  fact  that  everything  you  do  is  a  choice.   Start  by  thinking  about  the  terms  we’ve  used  in  these  posts,  and  if  they  resonated  with  you,  write  them down.  Part  of  the  reason  I  assigned  terms  to  so  many  of  these  feelings  or  phenomena—the  Instant Gratification  Monkey,  the  Rational  Decision-Maker,  the  Panic  Monster,  the  Dark  Playground,  Ickiness, Bricks,  the  Critical  Entrance,  the  Dark  Woods,  the  Tipping  Point,  the  Happy  Playground,  Flow,  your Storyline—is  that  terms  help  you  clarify  the  reality  of  the  choices  you’re  making.  It  helps  expose  bad choices  and  highlights  when  it’s  most  critical  to  make  good  ones. 2)  Create  methods  to  help  you  defeat  the  monkey.   Some  possible  methods: Solicit  external  support  by  telling  one  or  more  friends  or  family  members  about  a  goal  you’re trying  to  accomplish  and  asking  them  to  hold  you  to  it.  If  that’s  hard  for  whatever  reason,  email  it to  me—I’m  a  stranger  ([email protected])—and  just  typing  out  a  goal  and  sending  it  to  a real  person  can  help  make  it  more  real. Create  a  Panic  Monster  if  there’s  not  already  one  in  place—if  you’re  trying  to  finish  an  album, schedule  a  performance  for  a  few  months  from  now,  book  a  space,  and  send  out  an  invitation  to  a group  of  people. If  you  really  want  to  start  a  business,  quitting  your  job  makes  the  Panic  Monster  your  new roommate. If  you’re  trying  to  write  a  consistent  blog,  put  “new  post  every  Tuesday”  at  the  top  of  the  page… Leave  post-it  notes  for  yourself,  reminding  you  to  make  good  choices. Set  an  alarm  to  remind  yourself  to  start  a  task,  or  to  remind  you  of  the  stakes. Minimize  distractions  by  all  means  necessary.  If  TV’s  a  huge  problem,  sell  your  TV.  If  the  internet’s a  huge  problem,  get  a  second  computer  for  work  that  has  Wifi  disabled,  and  turn  your  phone  on Airplane  Mode  during  work  sessions. Lock  yourself  into  something—put  down  a  non-refundable  deposit  for  lessons  or  a  membership. And  if  the  methods  you  set  up  aren’t  working,  change  them.  Set  a  reminder  for  a  month  from  now  that says,  “Have  things  improved?  If  not,  change  my  methods.”

3)  Aim  for  slow,  steady  progress—Storylines  are  rewritten  one  page  at  a  time. In  the  same  way  a  great  achievement  happens  unglorious  brick  by  unglorious  brick,  a  deeply-engrained habit  like  procrastination  doesn’t  change  all  at  once,  it  changes  one  modest  improvement  at  a  time. Remember,  this  is  all  about  showing  yourself  you  can  do  it,  so  the  key  isn’t  to  be  perfect,  but  to  simply improve.  The  author  who  writes  one  page  a  day  has  written  a  book  after  a  year.  The  procrastinator  who gets  slightly  better  every  week  is  a  totally  changed  person  a  year  later. So  don’t  think  about  going  from  A  to  Z—just  start  with  A  to  B.  Change  the  Storyline  from  “I procrastinate  on  every  hard  task  I  do”  to  “Once  a  week,  I  do  a  hard  task  without  procrastinating.”  If  you can  do  that,  you’ve  started  a  trend.  I’m  still  a  wretched  procrastinator,  but  I’m  definitely  better  than  I was  last  year,  so  I  feel  hopeful  about  the  future. Why  do  I  think  about  this  topic  so  much,  and  why  did  I  just  write  a  19,000  page  blog  post  on  it? Because  defeating  procrastination  is  the  same  thing  as  gaining  control  over  your  own  life.  So  much  of what  makes  people  happy  or  unhappy—their  level  of  fulfillment  and  satisfaction,  their  self-esteem,  the regrets  they  carry  with  them,  the  amount  of  free  time  they  have  to  dedicate  to  their  relationships—is severely  affected  by  procrastination.  So  it’s  worthy  of  being  taken  dead  seriously,  and  the  time  to  start improving  is  now.

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345  comments  -  jump  to  comment  field  » Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  10:33  am  

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Been  procrastinating  all  night  waiting  for  this.  Let  the  reading  begin!  Oh,  and…  first!

jaily February  13,  2014  at  3:02  am  

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The  description  of  the  “dark  playground”  is  spot  on.  I  have  found  one  of  the  best  ways  to fight  progractination  habits  especially  with  a  long  project  (PhD  Dissertation)  is  to  schedule  guilt-free pleasure  time.  Friday-night-Saturday  -morning  (or  whatever  slot  you  choose)  is  play  time,  no  matter what  else  is  going  on.  You  NEED  some  time  out  of  the  darkness.  Somehow  having  that  pre-planned space  brings  strcutre  to  the  work  periods.  It  makes  life  worth  living  again.

old  greg November  6,  2013  at  10:54  am  

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Finally!

Denis November  6,  2013  at  11:07  am  

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Thank  you  very  much!  Amazing  article  about  my  feelings  right  now!  Let’s  start  with  the  first  brick!

Anonymous

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November  6,  2013  at  11:09  am  

I’ll  start  beating  the  monkey  once  I’ve  figured  out  why  that  guy  is  trying  to  saw  a  piece  out  of the  corner  of  that  house.  And  what  practical  use  a  nail  on  the  exterior  of  the  house  could  be  used  for.

Wait  But  Why November  26,  2013  at  1:49  am  

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It’s  an  advanced  technique.

Sonya December  5,  2013  at  7:57  pm  

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I  have  a  question  why  actually  that  guy  trying  to  saw  a  piece  out  of  the  corner  of  the  house?

Anonymous June  6,  2014  at  3:43  am  

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The  house  shown  is  not  the  one  he’s  building.  The  one  he’s  building  has  a  chunk missing  out  of  its  corner…

Ralph  Booth November  6,  2013  at  11:13  am  

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Dude  this  was  fantastic….and  I  can  imagine  how  dreadful  it  was  to  start  writing  this particular  post.  I  even  had  goosebumps  when  I  reached  the  part  with  the  happy  playground.  Your words  kind  of  opened  my  eyes  today!  I  never  looked  at  this  problem  like  this  before.  Thanks  a  lot  man! Respectful  and  earnest  greeting  from  far  away  Switzerland!

David January  8,  2014  at  4:03  pm  

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I  can  just  agree. Now  lets  start  it!

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  11:17  am  

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TL;DR

My  Bad  Self November  11,  2013  at  8:35  am  

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Cool!  I  know  what  that  means!  A  140  IQ  and  two  Ph.D.’s  don’t  help  a  poor  boy  integrate much  when  he  doesn’t  even  speak  the  language.  However,  thanks  to  Google,  once  upon  a  time  I looked  up  those  very  letters—TLDR—and  so  now  as  I  read  your  brilliant  reply  to  this  blog,  I  already know  what  they  mean!  And  I  didn’t  even  have  to  re-google  them  to  be  certain.  Yea,  for  me! You  there,  Mr./Ms.  TLDR,  have  given  me  wonderful  feelers  of  great  knowledgeability;  you  further causeth  these  feelers  to  overfloweth  with  overflowing  overflowingness,  and  proveth  upon  more and  increasing  provingnation  that  20  years  of  alcoholism  haven’t  totally  destroyed  my  ability  to learn  and  remember.  Most  importantly  of  all,  you  have  reminded  me  that  sometimes  a  little goodness  can  EVEN  come  from  people  being  insensitive  and  ignorant.  Thank  you!

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  12:09  pm  

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Thank  You.

Anonymous January  3,  2014  at  6:14  am  

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Amen

traveller November  6,  2013  at  12:41  pm  

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Thanks  for  your  work  from  Ukraine!

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  1:41  pm  

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I’ve  been  in  the  procrastination  pits  of  hell  for  a  long  time  now.  The  way  you  describe  it  all  is amazing,  and  I  think  your  advice  is  spot  on.  Unfortunately  for  me,  I’m  not  strong  enough  to  follow  it,  so I’m  stuck  here  crying  in  the  dark  playground  for  life  now. (Wish  Adderall  was  an  option,  but  I’m  in  the  UK  and  it’s  not  used  here.  It’s  also  pretty  much  impossible to  import.)

Dinarena November  7,  2013  at  10:52  am  

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If  you  think  you  may  have  ADD/ADHD  (procrastination  was  the  main  symptom  that  led  to my  diagnosis  of  ADD)  then  get  your  GP  to  refer  you  to  the  Adult  ADHD  service  in  your  area  (they should  have  one,  NICE  guidelines  say  there  should  be  one  and  if  your  GP  tries  to  fob  you  off  or  says adult  ADHD  doesn’t  exist,  show  them  the  guidelines  and  insist  on  the  referral,  or  change  GP)  – although  you  won’t  get  Adderall,  the  NHS  does  allow  prescribing  of  Ritalin,  Concerta  and  Dexedrine which  all  have  similar  effects.  Good  luck!

Alistair January  5,  2014  at  1:18  pm  

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NICE  guidelines  are  just  that.  There  is  no  requirement  for  individual  trusts  or  CCGs  to follow  them  if  they  don’t  feel  it  is  a  priority  versus  balancing  their  budget  with  other  critical areas.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  1:55  pm  

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I  think  it’s  very  important  to  try  integrate  long  tasks  or  projects  in  to  your  daily  life.  Basically faking  your  mind  that’s  just  a  regular  chore  you  just  do  like  going  to  work,  vacuum  your  place  or  eating lunch.  Just  something  you  do  every  day  without  having  the  big  overarching  goal  in  mind. This  is  really  something  that  helped  me  on  my  diet.  It  allowed  me  to  do  sports  on  almost  every  day  for over  2  years  now  and  I  HATED  sports  before  all  that.  But  because  it  just  became  part  of  my  daily  life  I just  did  it  –  still  with  minor  procrastinating  of  course,  but  in  the  end  I  never  quit  and  with  50  kilos  less on  my  ribs  it  really  paid  off.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  2:39  pm  

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I’m  definitely  a  Mixed  Feelings  Park  person.  If  anything’s  got  a  deadline  and  isn’t  one  of  my own  goals,  that’s  where  I’ll  end  up.  If  it’s  something  I  want,  I’ll  just  stay  in  the  Dark  Playground.  How crazy  is  it  that  I  always  put  my  own  desires  after  things  like  university,  work,  etc?

LugoLian November  6,  2013  at  2:46  pm  

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Jesus,  the  way  you  write,  the  analogies,  the  depictions  and  stuff  is  genius.  I  feel  so interpreted. Thank  you  very  much  for  sharing  this.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  2:48  pm  

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First  public  online  comment  ever  and  have  just  one  word:  Awesome  blog–even  more awesome  post!

EKB November  6,  2013  at  3:37  pm  

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Welcome  to  the  interwebs!

Dante November  6,  2013  at  3:20  pm  

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What  to  do  if  your  monkey  is  a  fucking  nihilist?

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  3:33  pm  

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oh  mine  is  a  HUGE  nihilist.  i  can’t  ever  get  anything  done  because  my  monkey  tells  me  i  may  as  well skip  it  since  nothing  matters  anyway  and  we’re  all  going  to  die.  still,  AMAZING  post.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  4:00  pm  

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A  nihilist  monkey  is  right.  Nothing  matters  anyway.  Question  is  whether  YOU  prefer  to  have this  conversation  with  the  nihilist  monkey  in  a  happy  playground  or  a  dark  playground.

Anonymous January  2,  2014  at  5:48  pm  

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nice  !

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  3:51  pm  

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Another  great  post.  I  imagine  if  you  did  it  all  once,  or  a  part  each  day,  like  brick  layering. Congratulations,  from  Brazil.

Nate  Bunger November  6,  2013  at  4:27  pm  

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I  waited  all  week  for  this  blog  post.  The  first  time  in  my  life  I’ve  ever  looked  forward  to  a  blog post  actually.  I  checked  last  night  at  around  midnight  (it  was  actually  now  Wednesday  on  the  East  coast) and  it  still  wasn’t  live,  realizing  what  a  huge  problem  procrastination  is  even  for  the  guy  who  is  writing about  the  cure.  Amazing  article,  your  the  king  of  the  Internet  right  now  and  people  are  going  to  see  it soon.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:03  pm  

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This  is  hilarious  and  spot-on.  Good  luck  with  your  brick-laying.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:16  pm  

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Thanks.  Your  advice  is  great.  So  is  your  blog.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:18  pm  

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I  guess  I  still  don’t  get  what  you’re  talking  about.  As  I  said  in  part  1,  I  consider  myself  to  be  a chronic  procrastinator.  On  most  things,  I  wait  until  the  last  minute.  But  I  also  think,  “So  what?”  Going  to your  house  analogy,  when  I  compare  the  house  I  made  at  the  eleventh  hour  to  the  ones  I  make  when  I take  the  time  to  lay  one  brick  at  a  time,  the  two  aren’t  significantly  different,  and  honestly  a  lot  of  times the  houses  I  make  in  a  rush  look  better  to  me. Not  only  that,  but  it  only  took  me  one  day  to  build  the  hurried  house,  whereas  it  took  me  10  days  for  the other  one.  Why  would  I  take  10  days  to  do  something  I  can  do  in  one? Also,  I  still  have  to  say  that  procrastination  (IMO)  is  when  you  wait  to  the  last  minute  to  do  something, but  you  still  do  it.  If  it  never  gets  done,  you  didn’t  procrastinate,  you  just  didn’t  do  it.  That’s  the difference  between  “procrastination”  and  “being  irresponsible”. Finally,  I  wonder  if  some  of  what  you’re  dealing  with  relates  to  your  Generation  Y  post,  where  you  seem to  set  some  incredibly  lofty  goals  for  yourself.  Look  at  what  you  wrote  in  the  post….be  a  great  guitarist, get  in  great  shape,  be  an  independently  wealthy  app  developer.  OF  COURSE  those  things  are  hard  to  do and  frustrating,  because  in  most  cases,  unless  you’re  truly  special,  they  are  beyond  your  abilities. Remember  your  Gen  Y  post?  “You  can  be  anything!  You’re  special!”  Well,  the  reality  is  you’re  probably not. So  maybe  one  factor  at  play  here  is  by  setting  such  lofty  goals  for  yourself,  some  of  which  are  likely  out

of  your  reach,  you  doom  yourself  to  failure  and  disappointment.  “I  wanna  be  a  great  guitar  player”  —> years  of  frustrated  practice  because  you’re  not  talented  enough.  Try  setting  more  achievable  goals  for yourself,  e.g.,  “I  wanna  learn  to  play  the  guitar”,  and  if  you  end  up  being  great,  it’ll  happen  because  you have  a  natural  love  for  it  and  will  never  want  to  stop  playing  (it  becomes  your  dark  playground).  If  not, you  have  to  learn  to  be  satisfied  with  just  knowing  how  to  play  guitar  a  little.

Jim November  6,  2013  at  10:27  pm  

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It’s  about  how  you  feel  in  those  other  9  days,  and  while  you’re  doing  the  work  on  the  10th. If  procrastinating  doesn’t  make  you  feel  bad,  and  rushing/cramming  doesn’t  make  you  feel  bad… you  don’t  have  a  problem,  I  guess.  Procrastination  isn’t  something  that  negatively  affects  you. However,  most  people  who  procrastinate  feel  like  crap  while  they’re  procrastinating  and  feel  just  as bad  after  finishing  something  they  procrastinated  on.  The  looming  nature  of  a  task  put  off  can provoke  anxiety.  In  this  case,  procrastination  has  a  significant  negative  impact  on  the  emotional state  of  the  person  procrastinating.

Anonymous November  7,  2013  at  2:06  pm  

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“when  I  compare  the  house  I  made  at  the  eleventh  hour  to  the  ones  I  make  when  I  take  the time  to  lay  one  brick  at  a  time,  the  two  aren’t  significantly  different,  and  honestly  a  lot  of  times  the houses  I  make  in  a  rush  look  better  to  me.  ” I  agree  with  this  statement.  Maybe  this  is  the  irony.  In  art  the  Monkey  probably  plays  a  pretty important  role  in  beauty  and  meaning. I  really  love  this  analogy  of  the  monkey  and  agree  it  gives  clarity  to  the  subject  of  procrastination.  I just  wonder…  The  building  is  made  of  neatly  laid  ‘bricks’,  small  tasks  like  ‘write  100  words  in  5 minutes’  or  ‘go  to  a  30  minute  class’.  I  agree,  it  is.  Could  the  whole  reason  you’re  building,  you’re purpose,  could  be  thought  of  as  it’s  foundation.  Ironically,  in  art,  the  monkey  may  be  the  key  to building  the  foundation. Can  a  monkey  be  a  muse,  I  wonder?  In  Betty  Edwards  book  “drawing  with  the  right  side  of  the brain”  she  mentions  that  our  rational  brain  has  a  lot  of  preconceived  notions  about  what  things look  like.  It  distorts,  not  in  a  good  way,  but  in  a  rather  predictable  and  boring  way.  So  we  have  to frustrate  our  rational  brain  until  it  shuts  down  and  shares  the  power.  Turning  your  picture  upside down  usually  pisses  it  off.  This  switch  then  calls  in  the  spatial  side  to  make  decisions.  Getting  away from  the  verbal  side  to  the  spatial  side  can  be  a  step  toward  our  intuition  or,  at  least,  our unconscious  side.  Maybe  this  transition  to  the  right  brain  is  a  step  toward  our  monkey.  A  key  to creativity.  (there  is  definitely  a  feeling  of  struggle  as  it  happens,  same  as  you  describe.  She  is  also  a genius  for  suggesting  we  fight  this  fight.  Very  helpful) Artistic  considerations-unconscious  choices  of  color,  line,  direction  and  imagery,  guided  by emotions,  could  be  the  domain  of  the  monkey.  They  feel  like  a  whim.  ‘I  Just  Felt  Like  It’-type decisions.  These  are  the  things  that  give  life,  beauty  and  personal  meaning  to  your  building.  They separate  your  building  from  every  other  brick  building  on  your  street.  They  give  you  a  reason  to build  it. I  would  never  give  my  Monkey  the  steering  wheel  to  the  car.  It  is  a  trickster,  after  all.  But,  a  good switching  system,  knowing  when  to  defer  to  your  monkey,  when  to  take  the  reigns,  seems  key.  If you  value  a  meaningful  life.

Smemorato April  29,  2014  at  9:50  am  

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No,  it  doesn’t  semm  likely.  The  analogy  beetween  the  monkey  and  the  “creative  part  of the  brain”  doesn’t  fit  well  because  the  monkey  is  as  verbal  and  submissive  to  preconcepts  as the  rational  guy  is. Meaningful  life  concept:  is  just  wishfull  thinking  about  your  past,  your  future  and  life  of  others, bI  believe  is  one  of  the  most  subtle  dark  playgrounds. Just  enjoy,  please,  and  don’t  feel  frustrated  if  you’re  not  part  of  2%  supergeniuses  which armonize  beetween  the  subconscious-logic  and  creativity.  Many  of  them  could  be  having  a

shitfull  life  in  some  war-ripped-off  country,  or  being  assholes.

Anonymous November  8,  2013  at  12:35  am  

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Jim, I  used  to  feel  the  way  you  describe  when  I  procrastinated.  But  now  I  don’t,  because  I’ve  learned  to look  at  it  differently.  Rather  than  being  upset  that  I  waited  until  the  last  minute,  I  think  it’s  pretty cool  that  I  can  work  one-tenth  as  hard  as  most  everyone  else  around  me,  and  still  usually  outperform  them.  IOW,  my  last-minute-house  is  usually  as  good  as,  or  better  than,  their  one-brick-at-atime-house. I  think  the  “feeling  bad”  came  from  my  mom.  She  would  see  me  in  my  room,  cramming  for  a  test  or writing  a  paper  the  night  before  it’s  due,  and  yell  “Why  do  you  do  this?  You  should  have  started  a month  ago!  What’s  wrong  with  you??!!”  As  a  kid,  you  get  the  message:  when  you  procrastinate, you  should  feel  bad  and  guilty. It  took  a  while,  but  with  some  deep  introspection  I  got  past  that.  Now  I  love  the  fact  that  I  can  have both  a  rational  person  pilot  AND  an  instant  gratification  monkey  and  still  be  successful.  I  can’t imagine  going  through  life  without  that  monkey.  Must  be  boring  as  hell.

Anonymous November  8,  2013  at  12:37  am  

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As  far  as  the  monkey  being  a  muse,  yeah  I  can  see  that.  I’m  not  terribly  artistic,  even though  I  am  creative  (more  of  a  problem  solver),  and  now  that  I  think  about  it,  I  think  you’re  right. That  monkey  and  the  places  he  takes  me  are  a  big  source  of  my  creative  ideas.

My  Bad  Self November  11,  2013  at  9:07  am  

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@Anonymous:  “Remember  your  Gen  Y  post?  ‘You  can  be  anything!  You’re  special!’  Well, the  reality  is  you’re  probably  not.” If  happiness  is  fulfilling  one’s  potential,  then  hell  is  being  a  tested,  proven,  and  certified  genius  that can’t  help  but  amount  to  nothing.  Sadly,  nobody  has  much  sympathy  for  tortured,  underachieving geniuses—except  other  tortured  and  underachieving  geniuses.  Like  the  Beautiful  Prom  Queen crying  in  a  bathroom  stall  during  the  dance  about  how  lonely  it  is  to  be  pretty,  because  nobody  sees you  as  a  real  person:  those  to  whom  much  has  been  given  must  mostly  cry  alone.  Nonetheless,  it’s the  worst  kind  of  nightmare,  if  suicide  statistics  are  any  measure  of  pain,  and  any  person  who works  to  mitigate  human  suffering  of  ANY  kind  deserves  our  praise  and  great  respect.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:33  pm  

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I  feel  so  inspired!  Ha And  I  loved  the  dark  forest  tree.  I’m  going  to  make  my  monkey  my  B*tch!

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:47  pm  

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WOW!  These  last  two  articles  just  saved  me  $700  in  cognitive  behavioral  therapy  sessions. Talk  about  timely  –  THANK-YOU!

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:53  pm  

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This  is  GREAT.  Spot-on.  I  think  my  monkey’s  in  hiding  now.

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  5:57  pm  

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This  was  amazing.  I  think  you  even  inspired  my  monkey.  Thank  you.

Liz  at  Human  Nature November  6,  2013  at  5:58  pm  

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This.  Is.  Brilliant.  Please  turn  it  into  a  book.  Just  a  short  one.  An  ebook.  If  you  don’t  (or  can’t  get  around to  it)  can  I  do  it  for  you?  I  liked  Mixed  Feelings  Park  especially.  And  the  Panic  Monster.  Absolutely genius.  Thank  you.  

Kajetan November  6,  2013  at  5:59  pm  

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Great  post,  and  very  entertaining! We  actually  developed  web  app  called  “Alive”  (https://www.alive.do)  that  helps  you  use  the  exact  same methods  you  recommended  in  your  post  –  breaking  goals  into  small  steps,  getting  external  support from  friends,  creating  reminders  etc.  (and  I  don’t  usually  advertise  this  in  comments,  but  here  it  just  fits perfectly). Keep  up  the  great  work!

Sonya November  7,  2013  at  11:37  am  

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Thank  you  I  will  try!

Anonymous January  2,  2014  at  6:04  pm  

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Looks  great  Sonya  

Samuel  Zamora November  7,  2013  at  2:17  pm  

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Looks  neat!  Congrats.  Hope  you’ll  help  lots  of  people

AwesomelyOZ November  6,  2013  at  6:12  pm  

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I  think  this  was  written  for  me!  I  am  in  the  process  of  learning  SharePoint  and  one  of  my goals  is  to  learn  coding..  it’ll  take  me  some  time  but  I  am  guilty  of  massive  procrastination!  I’ve definitely  learned  to  take  smaller  chunks  and  lay  one  brick  at  a  time  otherwise  the  overwhelming  factor kicks  in  and  things  seem  impossible.  It’s  all  about  perception;  we  handle  things  better  in  smaller  doses! Have  a  great  one  -Iva

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  6:31  pm  

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“No  one  wants  to  be  on  Adderall”.  Speak  for  yourself.

My  Bad  Self November  11,  2013  at  8:45  am  

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Bravo!  Yes,  please  let’s  do  speak  for  ourselves.  Which  reminds  me–time  for  my  meds!

Pam  Collins November  6,  2013  at  6:31  pm  

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Excellent  post!  Just  excellent!  Go  spend  some  time  in  your  well  deserved  happy  playground

Kimberly  Davis November  6,  2013  at  7:11  pm  

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There  is  also  something  to  be  said  for  **allowing**  your  instant  gratification  monkey  to have  free  reign  for  a  little  while.  It  helps  me  to  actually  schedule  some  dark  playground  time.  If  I  give my  monkey  15  minutes  over  my  lunch  break  and  fifteen  minutes  before  I  leave  work  I  find  that  I’m  less likely  to  run  home  and  get  on  my  laptop  and  procrastinate  the  dishes,  tape  off  that  room  that  needs painted  and  watering  my  plants.  I  guess  what  I’m  trying  to  say  is  that  I’m  a  procrastinator,  I  accept  this. But,  I  don’t  feel  the  **guilt**  that  comes  with  this  affliction  as  often  if  along  with  scheduling  time  for the  brick  laying  i  schedule  time  for  my  monkey  too.  Maybe  it  wont  make  sense  to  some  that  I  actually schedule  time  throughout  my  day  to  procrastinate  but  it  works  for  me.  I  give  myself  some  time  to  check this  blog  on  Wednesdays  even  though  I  should  be  working  and  i  don’t  feel  guilty  about  it  all  because  it is  part  of  my  Wednesday  schedule.  Now,  back  to  work.

Anonymous December  12,  2013  at  5:52  am  

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You  are  not  a  procrastinator.

Jon January  2,  2014  at  6:11  pm  

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This  is  a  procrastinators  dream  mate!  We  schedule  tasks  &  breaks,  but  always  make  the wrong  choice.  It’s  seriously  awful  –  you  should  feel  blessed  that  you  don’t  understand  the  problem    Planning  to  take  15  mins  on  the  net  DURING  YOUR  LUNCH  is  not  procrastination…

Jon January  2,  2014  at  6:13  pm  

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Congratulations  Kimberley!  We  hope  to  join  you  in  the  Happy  Playground  Sometime  in  2014

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  7:20  pm  

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thank  you..  the  post  is  really  amazing  and  insightful  ..  it  has  given  me  clarity  which  i  was looking  for  

Anonymous November  6,  2013  at  7:28  pm  

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thank  you