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  Lotus  Flower  Bomb:  Vaginal  Tightening  Exercises  for  Sexual  Ecstasy   Text  copyright  ©  2012  Eva  Arlington    All  Rights  Reserved    Eva  Arlington  Publishing  (2012-­‐09-­‐15).    

DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor or medical professional of any sort. I am simply a sexual and sensual woman who is dedicated to the art of reaching my highest sexual potential in a respectable manner and encouraging others, especially women, my fellow goddesses to do the same. All the information presented within is to the best of my personal knowledge acquired from personal experience, experiences of friends and subjects who’ve willingly lent their voices and input to this material, online and print research and media sources deemed appropriate for reference and citation within the pages of this book. Neither I, Eva Arlington, nor my affiliates, are legally liable or responsible for any results, positive, neutral or negative that arise from use of and application of techniques and information gleaned within the experience of reading this book. Neither Amazon, the publisher, or any of Amazon or the publisher’s affiliates, employees and related entities accept responsibility for any effects, positive, neutral or negative, that arise from the reading of this book. By reading further, you fully accept personal responsibility to research and inform yourself of any benefits and risks pertaining to the information and material provided within this book.

  Table  of  Contents   DISCLAIMER:  

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VAGINAL  TIGHTENING  THROUGH  KEGEL  EXERCISES  

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BRIEF  HISTORY  OF  KEGEL  EXERCISES  

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KEGELS  MAGICALLY  REVIVE  YOUR  SEX  LIFE  

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MEN  LOVE  WOMEN  WHO  KEGEL  

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HOW  DO  I  KNOW  IF  I  NEED  KEGELS?  

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HOW  TO  PROPERLY  PERFORM  KEGELS  

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TIPS  AND  TRICKS  FOR  GOOD  KEGEL  EXERCISE  

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ADVANCED  VAGINAL  TIGHTENING  EXERCISES  

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JADE  EGGS  

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BEN  WA  BALLS  

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CAN  I  TIGHTEN  MY  VAGINA  WITH  CHINA  SHRINK  CREAM?  

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5  TIPS  FOR  SUCCESS  WITH  VAGINAL  TIGHTENING  EXERCISES  

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HOW  TO  BRING  YOUR  MAN  OVER  THE  EDGE  WITH  PLEASURE  

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LINGAM  MILKING:  MILKING  HIS  PENIS  

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KEGEL  EXERCISES  FOR  MEN  

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REFERENCES  &  WORKS  CITED  

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Vaginal Tightening through Kegel Exercises Your womanly body is one of the universe’s greatest marvels. A vessel of feminine energy, your body is a co-creative force of the Universe. Mysterious, soft and alluring, your body can push a man

over the edges of reality until he erupts in bliss, and ultimately, give birth to another human life. Remember sex education class in school? Your teacher probably informed you about the basics of the birds and the bees, telling you what your vagina was, where it was located and what it did - but I can bet my bottom dollar that she never discussed the proper care and maintenance of your vagina. Now, when I say “proper care and maintenance,” I don’t mean wash your vagina twice a day and wipe every time you go to the bathroom. That’s called hygiene and I pray to the Heavens you already have a masterful command of “coochie cleanliness”! Proper care and maintenance of your vagina goes much deeper than hygiene. It’s maintaining the physical strength and upkeep for your vagina, ensuring that it’s a maximum strength so it can be fully functional at a moment’s notice. Most women ignore their vaginal strength levels until it’s “too late” – as in until something b*tch slaps them to attention. (Oh, hello vaginal delivery!) You might have just had a child, or several, and noticed your sweet valley of love isn’t as opulently tight as it should be. You might have just come from the doctor with the shocking – and disheartening - news that you’re suffering from incontinence, which explains the embarrassing episodes you’ve had of accidentally peeing on yourself every time you laughed or sneezed too hard as of late. Even worse, perhaps you felt something weird and lumpy in your vagina – or saw part of your vaginal canal threatening to peek out. So you rushed to the gynecologist, who calmed you down and informed you that you’re fine, just suffering from uterine prolapse, a common, yet treatable condition that affects many women around the world. Or, like me, you may not have experienced any of these conditions above, but you’re concerned about your sex life – like I was. I have had difficulty for the longest getting what I felt was the “right” fit to maintain the highest level of pleasure and friction during sex with my partner.

This caused a great deal of frustration because, quiet as kept, though I loved sex, I didn’t have it all the time, nor did I have a high number of partners. In fact, my number was quite low. Since I had a low frequency of partners and a low frequency of sex, I questioned, “Why wasn’t my vagina tight enough? What’s wrong with my body? What do I need to do to fix this?” I discovered that the answer was simple: I wasn’t doing enough vaginal tightening exercises. Nothing to be surprised about; I figured because I was young and tight, I didn’t need to. There was never a need to give vaginal tightening exercises and kegel fitness plans any kind of thought. I mean, for why? Little did I know, vaginal tightening exercises – or kegels – were the simple secret to improving my sexual strength… my sexual performance… and it improved the quality of my sex life tremendously. Oh honey, yes! Unlike some women, I’m a full believer that enjoying your sex life is a central path to fully enjoying life overall. I tell every woman, sexual wellness is an important part of lifestyle wellness. It’s honestly nothing to be ashamed of. Your sexuality isn’t for everybody, no, but it’s yours and your right to assert when you need to. Since orgasmic experiences help color the beauty of your sexual experience, it’s important that you love and respect your sexuality to enhance and embrace them. Like any other muscle, your vaginal muscles need to be exercised and challenged regularly for optimum performance. Once you have consistently applied some of the exercises that I’m going to share with you within the pages of this book, your vaginal fitness improve. As a result, you will experience pleasurable results that make your sex life better, wetter and out of this world for both you and your lover. Throughout this book, you’ll discover surprisingly simple and sexy secrets to tightening your vagina. These secrets can be tested against your intimate situation, no matter how inexperienced or slack your muscles are.

“My Doctor Told Me This is Normal” If you’ve gone to the doctor and asked them about your vaginal tightness, or concerns related to it, they might not have been much help.

Your doctor may advise you that a looser vagina is normal as you age, and may have suggested a few resources, one of them being surgery. For the most part, I’ve heard doctors explain that when it comes to loss of vaginal strength, age or life is to blame, and that’s just common. Because it’s “common,” it automatically translates to being “normal” or “nothing to worry about” because you’re just like “every other woman your age.” Oh, but I beg to differ! I personally believe that just because something’s common doesn’t mean it’s meant – or has - to be this way. Never accept something that concerns you as “normal” or untreatable, especially with the reasoning that many other women do. To do so constitutes that you’re satisfied with letting others control your circumstances and condemn your sexual confidence based on generally accepted thought. You’re not a person who thinks in terms of “general acceptance” when it comes to your love life, right? I didn’t think so!

Brief History of Kegel Exercises Kegel exercises (pronounced KAY-guhl), or kegels, are the most common term for vaginal tightening exercises. They are named after Dr. Arnold Kegel. Dr. Arnold Kegel, M.D., F.A.C.S., was Assistant Professor of Gynecology at the University of Southern California School of Medicine. Dr. Kegel invented the Kegel perineometer and Kegel exercises, and first published information about them in 1948. Perineometers measure the strength of voluntary contractions of pelvic floor muscles. Dr. Kegel used it to measure vaginal air pressure of female patients while they performed Kegel exercises, particularly after he discovered that pelvic floor muscles weakened after the trauma of childbirth. Kegel treatments were designed to be non-invasive, surgery-free methods of treating genital relaxation. These exercises were especially designed to treat women who experienced incontinence (involuntary urinary leakage) after childbirth. Now, to be fair and clear, yes, pregnancy is a common cause of weakness in vaginal muscles, but having children isn’t the only reason you might need Kegel exercises. Today, Kegel exercises are usually the first thing your gynecologist or physician recommends to treat common issues women experience after childbirth, including urinary stress incontinence and female genital prolapse. Regular application of Kegels, which consist of contracting and relaxing pelvic floor muscles, can tighten your genital area. Your pelvic floor supports your uterus, bladder and bowel, so building control and strength in this area benefits all these parts of your body and helps you minimize the embarrassing effects of conditions such as urinary leakage and prolapse.

Urinary Leakage (Incontinence) Urinary leakage is a sign of incontinence. When you lose normal control of your bladder, and you cannot keep yourself from peeing on yourself when you laugh, cough, jog, run or throughout various activities in the course of your day, you’re incontinent.

Incontinence is a common segment of life for many women when they’re older. Contrary to what many women think, incontinence is not a disease, but a symptom. Incontinence has many causes, including aging, nervous system damage, weakening of bladder muscles and other diseases. Note: I am not a doctor or medical professional of any sort, so I cannot specifically identify or diagnose any medical condition you may have. If you feel that you’re experiencing signs of incontinence or are indeed incontinent, then you must seek medical assistance for an official diagnosis and treatment options.

Prolapse Prolapse literally translates “to fall out of place” from the Latin word prolabi (“to fall out”). Medical prolapse refers to organs, such as your uterus, falling or slipping out of place. Uterine prolapse is a highly embarrassing, physically (and sometimes psychologically) uncomfortable condition. Prolapse occurs when your pelvic organs descend and bulge into your vagina, or even protrude out of your vagina. Prolapse effects range from physical pressure and discomfort to leakage of urine during regular activities such as laughing or sneezing. You can experience prolapse after your pelvic floor has been weakened due to any combination of reasons. Many experts have confirmed that women can experience prolapse simply from aging, being overweight or regularly lifting heavy objects on a daily basis over a period of years. Treatment of prolapse depends on many factors, including the severity of the prolapse you’re experiencing. Your doctor may have recommended you take conservative measures to change your diet, lifestyle and fitness habits, or he/she may recommend something more extreme, such as surgery, including transvaginal surgical mesh implantation.

Kegels Magically Revive Your Sex Life Kegels are important for pleasure also. Remember when I said that I had trouble achieving orgasm through sex? How I was perplexed because I wasn’t sexually active enough (or so I thought) to feel like I wasn’t “tight enough” to maintain friction during sex?

Honey, I got over the slump with kegels. You and I both know, from what we’ve spoken about so far, there’s nothing sexy about how kegels sound, especially considering their medical application. Truth be told, however, kegel exercises are helping women everywhere reach orgasm. If you’re experiencing difficulty getting yours in the bedroom, adding kegel exercise to your daily routine can transform your sex life. Strengthening PC muscles with kegel exercise increases orgasmic intensity, which ultimately gives you better control over your arousal level.

This happens due to the strengthening kegel exercises provide to your pelvic floor, increasing your sexual sensitivity and triggering stronger muscle contractions – those same ones that are the foundation for powerful vaginal orgasms. (Even if your sex life needs more attention than simply vaginal tightening exercises alone, that’s okay. Rest assured, kegel fitness programs can be safely integrated with practices and assistance from counseling and sex therapy, if needed.)

Men Love Women Who Kegel Let’s assume that you’re not interested in the sensationally sweet sexual benefits of vaginal tightening for personal reasons. You are only interested in discovering its potential for keeping your husband sexually satisfied when he’s having sex you. Fair enough. Will vaginal tightening have any affect on your man’s pleasure? Will he notice the results? If so, will he enjoy it? Is improved vaginal tightness beneficial to your marriage or committed and monogamous relationship? My answer to all the above: Why, yes! Kegel exercises are an ageless secret to taking his breath away. By the power of kegels, you’re improving the strength, function and vitality of your vaginal muscles. In addition to experiencing a tighter grip on his penis (which is extremely pleasurable), your husband will notice the change in your physical and emotional sexual response, as he’ll see your heightened interest in the act.

Careful now! All men want a sex partner who not only absolutely loves having sex with them but isn’t afraid to show it. So if you feel – and express – a better appreciation from sex than usual, it can trigger a sense of fear, and even insecurity from your guy. I know a few women whose husbands have pulled them to the side and cautiously pried them to see if they were having an affair.

How Do I Know If I Need Kegels? Personally, I strongly believe every woman benefits from kegel exercise, including you. Whether sexually active or celibate, mother or childless, cougar or barely legal, kegels will benefit your physical and sexual health – even if you only practice a few times per month. You’ll maximize your orgasmic capacity, strengthen your vaginal canal in preparation for birth or postpartum recovery and give your lover a firmer “handshake” in bed. Most often, women who have given birth, especially multiple times, and women who are suffering from incontinence or prolapse discover they may really need to consider a regular kegel routine for maintenance. Here are some serious indications you may need to get on the ball and kegel: - You need to use larger dildos, vibrators and sex objects in order to feel “full” and satisfied during sex or solo play - You can easily fit 3 fingers into your vagina at the same time without resistance. - You insert your index finger into your vagina and cannot grip your vaginal muscles around it. - You find it difficult to achieve an orgasm during sex. - Your lover says he has a hard time feeling you during sex and it’s affecting his satisfaction.

How to Properly Perform Kegels Before you begin, let’s just clarify that you probably already know several ways to perform kegel exercises in a variety of regimens. You might have read about how you should perform kegels for different lengths of times a certain number of times. There isn’t any official authorized timeframe for this; the general rule of thumb is the more often you practice, then the better. More kegel exercises, more often, held for longer and longer periods of time (Nagoski, 2010). One of the most common ways women learn how to kegel is when they’re using the restroom. Testing your PC muscles and knowing how to start and stop the flow of urine with them is the easiest test of operability. I don’t believe you should do this, as habitually interrupting the flow of urine increases your risks of contracting a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) and inability to fully empty the bladder. Start your kegel exercises by first identifying the correct muscles. To identify your muscles, slide a clean finger inside your vagina and then attempt to squeeze around them. You should feel your vagina tighten around your finger and your pelvic floor move upward; if so great, this is an indication you’ve performed the exercise correctly. Now, relax your muscles and feel everything moving back to starting position. Congratulations! You’ve mastered the basic kegel exercise. Perfect your technique by contracting for up to 3-5 seconds sitting or lying down, and then relaxing for five to ten seconds. Do a few repetitions of this, perhaps anywhere between 4-10, whichever feels comfortable. MayoClinic recommends that you set a goal of keeping muscles contracted for 10 seconds and relaxing for 10 seconds.

Tips and Tricks for Good Kegel Exercise When you first start doing kegels, you might notice that you’re flexing other muscles in your stomach and upper legs. Any time you’re kegeling and feel flexation of your thighs, abs or buttocks, you’re not performing your kegels properly. Relax all your muscles except your pelvic floor. Focus on isolating your pelvic floor. Also, don’t forget to breathe deeply and freely – don’t hold your breath.

Once you get the hang of kegel exercises, repeat them regularly three times per day. Start out with a minimum of three sets of 10 repetitions daily as your initial goal. Also, you may be aware that the best feature of kegel exercises is you can carry out your kegel routines throughout the course of a day without anyone noticing anytime, anywhere. And I do mean anywhere: at your work desk. Your 10-minute lunch hour drive to the Golden Corral. Standing in line at the grocery store. Even while watching TV before bed with the kids… or on the phone with your bestie. In fact, you might find it convenient to make it a habit to align your kegels with a specific daily activity, such as when you check your email in the morning, while doing the dishes and right after tucking yourself in bed for the night.

Advanced Vaginal Tightening Exercises Once you’ve mastered the ability to perform kegels on your own, you can take your vaginal fitness program to the next level. There is an assortment of products available to guide you with achieving a strong, toned and sexy vagina. Please note, while I’m going to share various tools you can use to improve your vaginal tightening exercises, you are not obligated to use them. Again, you’re not required to purchase any of these tools to get a tighter, stronger vagina at all. These are just shared with you because they may greatly improve your results with kegel exercise. If you’re interested in potentially optimizing the benefits you get from kegel exercises over time, then be sure to check them out. Many of these products can be discretely purchased online and delivered directly to your house. Some can be found on Amazon, and others can be found at your local novelty store or passion party.

Jade Eggs Kegels are one of the greatest tools we can use to enhance our sensuality. The benefits of kegel exercise, especially with the application of a Jade Egg or other supportive aid, are spiritual, emotional and physical for many women Saida Desilets, a Jade Egg advocate, says application of the kegel exercise allows for the development of strength, sensitivity and suppleness, providing positive effects for your lover. “Our yoni’s increased dexterity allows us to literally suck, or pull our partner’s finger, tongue or penis into ourselves, literally enabling us to play them like a flute,” she explains. “…[And] when our partner has a soft penis, our increased dexterity will allow us to fully pleasure ourselves by moving his soft penis around using the muscles of our yoni.” As a result, Desilets says, you’ll take the “pressure” to perform off of your man, allowing him to revel in the deliciousness of your intimate experience, while enabling a greater range of orgasmic response. Interestingly enough, you will benefit from the sensitivity and achieve an orgasmic response without your lover’s penis too. Sensual development through kegel exercise will allow you to sexually arouse yourself rapidly at a moment’s notice. This newfound awareness and

control over our own pleasure potential provides a more ecstatic lovemaking experience, and increases your confidence.

Spiritual Effects of Jade Egg Practice Sex is an important aspect of your life. It’s what bonds you to your lover, refreshes your energy and relaxes you after a long day. You owe it to yourself to develop sexual mastery to make sure every experience is decadent and satisfying to your benefit. Think about it. What good is sex if it’s only benefit one of you in your relationship – and you’re the one left out? There’s nothing positive or enjoyable about that at all. Because sexual energy is creative energy, many believe that sexual energy is life force energy. Maintaining a steady flow of vibrant life force energy is vital to overall health and well-being, especially when you’re in a deeply committed relationship. Jade Egg practice is said to revitalize you, allowing you to access your potential as a powerfully spiritual and sensual woman. You become more attuned to the subtleties of life. Regular use gives you greater respect for your sexual energy and all that it does for you, including the way it unlocks your potential to manifest hidden dreams and goals into reality. Experiencing bliss as a fully awakened feminine woman is another attraction point as to why you should consider using Jade Eggs. Imagine how your life would transform if you went from your current existence to a state of enjoyment that included unbridled sexual creative energy and bliss? One where you felt completely feminine and fully in your power, despite your current environment, whether at work or shopping for groceries after dinner? You’d feel alive, sexy, fantastic and downright magnetic, wouldn’t you? Believe it or not, Jade Eggs were a well-hidden secret that ancient Taoists reserved specifically for those in royal power. The reason was that it was known anyone who could consciously control their vital essence became very powerful, able to manifest whatever they wanted in their lives. Students of Taoism who learned of the jade teachings were carefully selected in order to ensure misuse of power never occurred – in the wrong hands, it could destroy the kingdoms.

You can purchase Jade Eggs online; I’ve included a resource list at the end of this book to help you find everything you need to get started.

Starting Your Jade Egg Practice When you initially begin practicing with a Jade Egg, keep the option to use a personal lubricant to assist you available. Even if you get really wet after, you may have difficulty relaxing on your own or getting aroused enough to insert it using your natural juices alone. Pick up your egg and insert it by slowly pressing against your inner labia until it feels right to ease it inside of you. This is an exercise in listening to your body and developing trust in your inner wisdom, as your body will let you know when it is ready to receive the egg. Take your time to experience and receive the egg, noting the different sensations you feel as it enters you. Gently squeeze your vaginal muscles around your egg, feeling the sensation as you practice your kegel exercises. Depending on your comfort level, you can graduate to using eggs in different sizes or experimenting with Jade Egg practice using more than one egg at a time. As you get really comfortable, you will begin to practice going throughout the course of your day “wearing” your Jade egg so you can develop strength and awareness during normal tasks. Just be careful not to forget it’s there – the results could be mortifying. I speak from personal experience on this… A former lover of mine purchased Jade Eggs for me as a Valentine’s Day gift. (He was a Libra; he loved to please and was very romantic.) I had found the egg that suited me at the time, and decided to go out with some friends to the city. I was wearing a dress this day, a long and elegant maxi dress with turquoise and orange Indian print. I was looking fly and sexy. My friends and I were having a good time, cracking jokes and laughing. One of them said something too funny, and I laughed too hard, causing my egg to drop down and nearly come out. You can only imagine the face I made as a result of this. My friends were like, “What’s wrong?”

As I had to explain the Jade Eggs, you could see waves of bewilderment kidnap their expressions. Then I had to explain why I was even walking around the streets of New York City, up and down the lavish and prominent 55th and Madison Avenue area with semiprecious stones inconspicuously snuggled in my vagina. It was hilarious and somewhat mortifying. Every time I laughed too hard, I cried, “Oh, no! My egg!” My friends would hold their breath while I tried to regain control and composure and hope they could fragment themselves from me fast enough in the event I laid an egg in public. Think that’s bad? I have a friend who experienced worse. She inserted her egg and put on a long dress. She was enjoying herself at a party, forgot about her little secret and laughed so hard that her egg skydived from between her legs, nosedived loudly into the hard flooring and rolled across the room. Did I mention this was a children’s party? Luckily for her, she has a great sense of bravery, an impeccable sense of humor and felt no shame in retrieving her egg. (And even better, she was able to play the whole thing off to most people, because nobody had been paying attention to her to know where that egg had dropped from or why she even had it to begin with. I guess it also helps that Jade Eggs are incredibly beautiful, so they look like things you’d pick up from a random gift store. You can always play off why you have them if you absolutely have to and if anyone ever asks.) I could go on and on about the richness of Jade Egg practice, however, I am not the authority on this concept. To be honest, I practice my Jade Egg exercises regularly, but I’m still a novice in many ways. If you’d love to know more about Jade Eggs, review Saida Desilets’ book, The Emergence of the Sensual Woman, which gets into deep, deep discussion about the origins, benefits and advanced exercises available with Jade Eggs.

You can also check out Kim Anami’s G-Spot Ecstasy, a course for women who want to reach their highest orgasmic potential with the activation of G-Spot sensitivity.

Kegelmaster: The Kegel Queen of the Night Kegelmasters are the Rolls Royces of sexual improvement for women. They are so popular that actress Teri Hatcher, a star on TV’s Desperate Housewives, publicly proclaimed she’s had some of the best orgasms in her life thanks to the Kegelmaster. “I didn’t even know you had to exercise your vagina,” she told Jay Leno. “It’s called the Kegelmaster 2000. I ordered 5. I have a very strong kitty cat [now]. Let’s just say, all the other housewives have husbands and boyfriends, but when I find mine, he’s going to hit the jackpot. Everyone should get one!” Since then, these things have been flying off the shelves. I was introduced to the Kegel Master by a friend of mine named Jasmine*. (*No, her real name is not Jasmine.) Jasmine was a married mother of one who once served in the Army, but was now a civilian wife with a husband still enlisted. Jasmine and her husband were trying to have another child, but Jasmine wanted to make sure she made the most out of their desire to conceive. Already familiar with kegels, she was interested in seeing if there were something that could enhance the results she got from regular kegels. “I wanted to have that tight, bomb p*ssy!” she told me. “I want the gushy-gushy that makes his – and my – toes curl! Ever since I had my daughter, I’ve recovered down there, but it’s still not what it used to be. I need to c*m, Eva! I haven’t had those amazing orgasms like I used to since I’ve become a mother... and it’s not like we have time to do it all day with a 4 year old in the house, so we have to make the most of every moment we’ve got.” After using the Kegelmaster for only a week, Jasmine had rave reviews. Not only had she gained increased sensitivity using the product, but her husband had noticed a change in her tightness factor as well. Now, I’ve used Jade Eggs, and I highly recommend them. However, Jade Eggs are more or less preferable for strengthening your pelvic floor; with time, you’ll change sizes and use smaller and smaller ones

to really get a command of your wall sensitivity and overall tone. This is great and all, but you don’t want to just improve sensitivity and tone; you want to add some resistance to improve your overall grip, especially if you want to give your man the. ride. of. his. life. The Kegelmaster helped me achieve this. I don’t just have increased vaginal strength, I have Black Belt P*ssy. My vagina seriously comes with a triple black belt due to its amazing Coochie Kung Fu grip. I’m woman enough to admit that it took me several tries to convince me to cave in and purchase a Kegelmaster. I was intimidated by its size, shape and appearance until Jasmine told me of her fabulous results – especially the development of orgasmic capabilities maximizing with its use over the course of a month. (And yes, she did get pregnant with another child not long afterward… In fact, she now has 3 children, and is using the Kegelmaster to snap back into shape after having just given birth to a son less than a year ago.) As with Jade Eggs, it took me a bit of lubrication and patience to get the Kegelmaster in. I wasn’t relaxed enough, but I found a combination of natural and storebrought lube helped. The best time for me to use the Kegelmaster was post-orgasm. Once I had relaxed myself with a clitoral orgasm, if my body yearned for penetration, the desire to “feel something” made receiving the Kegelmaster much easier to flow with. Reviews on Amazon vary greatly from uncomfortable to clumsy and even useless. However, I might be a weird one, because while I can see and understand the clumsiness of the Kegelmaster, I had relaxed myself beyond discomfort. In fact, once I got into the exercises, I became really aroused and turned on by flexing the springs in this device because it seemed to directly stimulate my G-Spot, turning my sessions into extremely sexy ones. I quickly realized that my Kegelmaster could be my best friend or worst enemy during “dry spells” in my love life. There were times it helped soothe my desire for sex, and times where it only made me want sex more. I’m not promising that this will be the experience you’ll have with the Kegelmaster; I’m simply sharing my experiences and hope that regardless of the outcome, you achieve favorable results for yourself. Your Kegelmaster will come with a set of four springs, an instructional manual with complementary DVD and a silk pouch. The instructional

DVD is interesting to watch, but overall I found it to be more of an advertisement for the Kegelmaster than a true instruction guide. Move at your own pace with the Kegelmaster. Give yourself an orgasm prior to using it if it will help you unwind and receive your Kegelmaster better as opposed to taking the full Monty without arousal. Also adjust the strength levels as you see fit, as there are approximately 15 basic levels of strength and 64 levels of resistance training available with it.

Intensity Now – the Kegelmaster of the Future In addition to the basic Kegelmaster, the Intensity Now by jOpen is now available for women like you and I who may be interested in clitoral sensation to enhance their experience. It provides muscle stimulation that helps you look, feel and perform longer and sexually. Both a sexual health and stimulation device with five levels of intensity in vibration, the Intensity Now increases muscle tone in your pelvic area, thus increasing your orgasmic response while providing exquisite sexual pleasure. I have yet to personally try the Intensity Now device, yet I can say overall feedback is positive and I’m not surprised in the least. Here you have a product that stimulates your G-spot, clitoris and vaginal shaft simultaneously, coupled with custom inflatable technology. How couldn’t you get off on that? To learn more about these products, visit the Resources section of my website at http://www.vaginaltighteningexercises.com/bookresources.

Ben Wa Balls Ben Wall Balls have a bunch of nicknames including Burmese, Benoit Venus, Geisha or Orgasm balls. Small and marble-sized, Ben Wa balls are used for sexual stimulation and strengthening. Ben Wa balls are constructed of various materials and have a nearly endless array of colors and designs. Sold as a pair, you’ll find your Ben Wa balls linked to each other by a string to aid with easy removal.

Women who truly enjoy the use of Ben Wa balls enjoy the subtle stimulation it provides, as well as the challenge of squeezing their vaginal walls around it for increased grip and sensitivity. Some women who are daring enough may even have sex with a single one inserted for their pleasure. (I have not tried this.) As with Jade Eggs, use of Ben Wa balls for increased sensitivity is not to induce immediate orgasm, but to create subtle, sensual layers of erotic awareness as you go throughout your day. Beware though, many balls have smaller balls or bells inside them, and you may find yourself exposed when you walk down the hall and everyone hears the enchanting chime of bells as you pass. (This is a true experience of another one of my oh-so-experimental-and-liberated friends.) On the other hand though, you may be able to bypass any feelings of mortification if you enjoy the feeling of control you have learning how to move through the day without dropping the ball. (Pun intended.)

A Note on Trying Other Vaginal Tighteners I’m not going to lie; there are a wealth of vaginal tightening aids that promise to help you get your vagina in tip-top shape. I have yet to try them all, but whether you opt for a Gyneflex, or something else, exercise caution. Read as many reviews as you can on a product before purchasing it, ask your friends and your doctor about it, and keep an open mind to getting used to the specific directions provided by the manufacturer when you start the process of using it. Again, I repeat that you’re not mandated to use any sexual device to perform exercises with kegels, however implementing one can greatly enhance your vaginal tightening progress. If you’re interested in increasing the quality of your results, and improving your urinary control and orgasmic potential, consider the investment.

Can I Tighten My Vagina with China Shrink Cream? If you’ve ever been to an adult novelty shop, you know what this is. Encased in a small white box with a nude Asian girl posing provocatively, China Shrink Cream claims to tighten the vagina 30 minutes or so prior to sexual activity. It’s only $10, but is it really worth the purchase?

Honestly, I personally have a tube of my own but I’ve never used it. For some reason, I can’t bring myself to as of yet. None of my friends have really used this product either. There’s just not enough information on how it works, the ingredients used to make it, how long its effective or negative side effects and dangers, if any. I’m not going to completely knock China Shrink Cream. There are quite a few women who’ve experienced positive results from China Shrink cream and other alternative tightening cream brands. “I used China Shrink cream after giving birth to my son 8 months ago,” says Geraldine, 34. “It feels gritty and can be drying down there so use lube, but overall it really works. After 5 minutes of application, I was tighter and ready for sex. I’m self-conscious due to the fact I still have extra baby weight and don’t feel as sexy and womanly as before, but sex is becoming amazing for myself and my husband again.” Several women who have used the cream have echoed Geraldine’s sentiments regarding grittiness and tightness, so keep some lube on hand in case you need a boost in wetness to smoothen the tightening effects. The downside, of course, is that shrink cream’s effects are temporary; vigorous thrusting can make the effects wear out faster, so be prepared to reapply the cream as needed. Also, because it has a disgusting and unappealing bitter taste, do not have your man go down on you after it’s been applied, and beware the taste of his penis if you end up going down on him after he’s been aside you once you’ve applied the product. No matter what though, regardless of whether you’re tightening your vagina with China Shrink Cream, trichotine douche, or soap (yes, I’ve read women use drying soap to increase sexual friction) – use caution. All of these products may or may not work for you, and you’ll be using them at your own risk, especially if you plan to do so without the recommendation or approval of a doctor. Also remember that all of these remedies, should they work, are designed to be temporary. They’ll do nothing to comprehensively treat, or aid in the treatment, of urinary incontinence, uterine prolapse or weakened vaginal muscles in the long run. If anything, apply them as a supplement to your kegel exercise routines.

Kegels versus temporary aids are akin to a healthy lifestyle versus a crash diet. You’ll get quick and easy effects that may be desirable to you and suit your needs for the immediate moment, but just like a diet pill, your effects won’t last long and can be easily lost in the blink of an eye. Admittedly, the results of kegels may not be immediate, but I truly believe they are the most effective treatment you can have for vaginal tightening – and that’s with or without the use of any additional equipment.

5 Tips for Success with Vaginal Tightening Exercises 1. Kegel regularly. It’s true, you can kegel during your normal daily activities, but it’s highly recommended that you set aside time specifically for your kegel exercises. This can be difficult at first, so the best way to integrate them is by doing them immediately before or after something you do daily, such as brushing your teeth, or after getting ready for bed. 2. Help remembering to Kegel? There’s an App for that. Make kegels a consistent habit by performing them at a set time every day. If you have an iPhone or Droid, check your App Store. Apps like Kegel Camp are available to help you remember your kegels – and with instructional tips to help you do them properly. 3. Consider integrating a KegelMaster or Jade Eggs. KegelMaster provides extra resistance, allowing you to experience several levels of strength training throughout your kegel exercise experience. Jade Eggs not only add tone to your vaginal, they help you cultivate feminine energy and increase your vaginal sensitivity. 4. Protect your pelvic floor. Heavy lifting, excess weight (obesity), chronic coughing and straining on the toilet can negatively affect your pelvic strength. Were you also aware that excessive and inappropriate exercising can have a negative effect on your pelvic muscles also? As you strengthen your pelvic floor, you’ll become more conscious of pressure on this area and begin to take protective

measures to protect it from damage. Recovery from setbacks could take an extended period of several months to fully bounce back from. 5. Don’t take too long. Exercising your kegel muscles can be a habit you perform daily or simply several times a week; however, don’t spend too much time exercising. You can get great results in as little as 10 minutes or less per day. Don’t perform any kegel marathons; this isn’t a competition. Doing too much can have negative effects.

How to Bring Your Man Over the Edge with Pleasure Here’s where we get to the good stuff: applying kegel exercises to intensify your man’s pleasure during sex. Once you’ve gotten into a consistent routine with your kegels, they should be easier and easier to perform. You’ll begin to feel the difference as the level of effort required to kegel subsides, and modify resistance on your KegelMaster or change the size of the jade eggs you use. You should also be able to playfully attempt to match your kegel contractions to the beat of a song playing on the radio or in your head. Demonstrate your kegel skills on your lover during sex. Men love the effects of a tighter, stronger vagina, but giving them a live demonstration of kegels can be an amazing experience for the both of you. Men tend to express that women who know how to kegel not only have stronger grips during sex, but tend to make the experience much more active as opposed to sexual experiences that are good, but a little more forgettable due to a lack of kegel activation. “I love women who know how to kegel. Any man with a woman who knows how to use her sex muscles in bed is a blessed man. The feeling you get from your dick being gripped and pulled on by tight pussy muscles is an mind-blowing,” says Marcus, 30. “Sex becomes

more of an active event as opposed to a passive one, and fighting off the urge to cum is a hot form of self-torture.” You can easily integrate kegeling during sex in several ways. Start by squeezing your muscles in rhythm with your partner’s strokes. Squeeze his penis as he thrusts into your vagina while you imagine yourself pulling him closer to you; add friction by trying to suck him back into you as he pulls out.

Lingam Milking: Milking His Penis If you’re really practicing and making great strides, you can actually make your PC muscles strong enough to “milk” his lingam (penis) to orgasm (known as “pompoir”) while the both of you lie completely still. The rhythmic, rippling effect of your gripping on his penis is the same effect you experience during an intense sexual orgasm; it’s the same kind that milks your husband’s penis when you cum and for him, it feels like you’re pulling his cum right out of his penis. Tantra Ecstasy reveals men love pompoir because it “feels like having a warm, soft, wet, velvet-gloved hand wrapped around their [penis], firmly gripping it and stroking them into the most delicious sexual nirvana they have ever experienced.” To milk his penis effectively, assume the proper positions. Woman on top and sitting are the ideal positions for you when you want to milk your man, so have him lay back. Say, “Baby I want you completely relaxed. I’m going to take care of you for a moment, so sit back and let me do all the work for you.” Take his penis in your hands and gently stimulate him to an erection. Feel free to apply oral stimulation; a little great head never harms anybody. Once erect, sit on or insert his penis fully into your warm, juicy yoni (vagina). Neither of you should be moving at all. You should both remain still. Your PC muscles should be the only muscles active, contracting your vagina around his penis. While you’re milking your man, use this time as an excellent opportunity to really bond and connect; freely kissing and caressing each other. It will be difficult, but refrain from thrusting and rocking.

Your vagina becomes more and more sensitive when you perform regular kegels. Close your eyes and relish the sensations. Feel yourself flexing and contracting your PC muscles in various rhythms that are extremely pleasurable to both yourself – and him. According to White Lotus East: The primary difference between Kegels and "milking the lingam" is that there's more to the method than just clenching your Yoni muscles. There is not just one muscle to manipulate, but several rows (imagine rings) of muscles lining the inside of the Yoni. With practice, you can learn to manipulate these muscles individually, in tandem or in sequence. Even from side to side. Practice is best accomplished with a Jade Egg. The idea is not to just squeeze, but to learn to give massage that you can control.

You can opt to wobble on the head of his dick and massage only that, or alternate milking him at different depths of penetration. You’ll notice changes in sensitivity as you strengthen your grip. After 10 to 15 minutes of delicious, torturous milking, you’ll feel his penis throbbing with intense arousal. Coordinate your contracting rhythm with his throbbing rhythm, “milking” him as he approaches orgasm. Then “milk” his penis throughout his orgasm. This is important. This is what makes him feel as if you’re pulling his nut out his body. Afterwards, focus on yourself, and work up to your own orgasm, adding clitoral, breast and other stimulation as necessary until you’re satisfied. If you’re a Tantra practitioner, or interested in dabbling in Tantra, please note that it’s said extended eye contact while milking is an exceptionally ecstatic experience. It gifts couples with heightened sexual ecstasy and spiritual connection to one another.

Kegel Exercises for Men If, by chance, you’re a man who happens to be reading, this section is specifically for you. Men need PC muscle strength just like women do, as they experience urinary incontinence and ejaculation issues linked to poor control.

When in great condition, your PC muscles effectively control the flow of urine and semen. Your PC muscles also control your penis’ firmness, affecting the quality of your erections - and ejaculatory shooting power when you cum. In other words, if you want a penis that’s rock hard and satisfying to your wife or lover for longer periods of time, then performing kegels regularly will help you achieve this. (And it should go without saying, but I will reassure you that, like women, you also have the power to discretely perform kegel exercises anytime, anywhere without freaking anyone out also.) If you’re not familiar with how to perform kegel exercises, then simply practice starting and stopping your pee when you’re in the restroom. Only do it a few times. I do not suggest making habitual interruptions while using the restroom as it can impact your ability to fully empty your bladder, and it also provides increased risk of UTI contraction, which is not only unpleasant but avoidable. Exercise your kegel muscles throughout the course of your day; doing them at a stop light on the way to work, before you get out of bed in the morning or on your lunch break are perfect times to get them done. During sex, you can flex your PC muscles while inside your lover and experiment to find strokes and flexing rhythms that feel really nice and excite the both of you. If inclined, you and your partner can “sign” to one another and practice your kegels together. Working together you and your lover can figure out when stroking with flexation is most pleasurable and apply the technique to your lovemaking arsenal. Some women love the feeling of a man flexing his PC while she’s in the midst of orgasm. Remember not to go overboard with your practice. It’s common when you start out to get the urge to practice kegels frequently. That’s cool, but practicing too much can have a debilitating effect. Start off with a nice amount of reps, perhaps 4 to 5, and work up to three sets of reps per day, holding each contraction for 3 to 5 seconds each. Work up to 10 seconds of holding and then 10 seconds of releasing.

Also, another frequent mistake many men make when learning to kegel exercise is to clench their abdomen, glute or thigh muscles during contractions. You should not be using these muscles; instead you should be activating your pelvic floor only. If you find that you’re activating more than just your pelvic floor muscles, then take a deep breath, relax and focus on what you’re doing. Don’t forget to breathe! You don’t need to hold your breath to kegel. After some time, especially over the course of several weeks, you should reap rewards from your efforts. You should see an improvement in erection and ejaculation quality – and your lady should notice a difference as well.

Expanding Your Sexual Awareness Allow me to encourage you. Now that you’re fully immersed and informed of the art of kegel exercises for improved health and sexual wellness, don’t stop here. Sexual health and wellness are part of living a great, wholly fulfilling lifestyle, and you deserve nothing less than ecstasy when cultivating your sexual potential. Feeling the effects of kegel exercises might take only a few days, or a good amount of time to notice. However, when you reap the benefits, you should notice an enhanced sense of presence, in and out of the bedroom. You’ll notice more of the inner workings of your body, especially in your genital area, and will feel more control over your urine flow. If you’re a woman, you’ll have increased vaginal sensitivity to ease the ability to achieve orgasms; and you’ll be able to grip your lover’s penis for improved mutual pleasure. If you’re a man, you’ll experience improved orgasmic/ejaculatory control and a firmer erection. Devote time to exploring your sexuality and sensuality with practices that are positive, enlightening and sexually affirming. We’re challenged to live in a society that treats our sexuality as a taboo to the point of obsessing over it. We either talk about sex – or promote sex – too much, or avoid all discussion of it. As a result, there are blocks to achieving ultimate sexual satisfaction that many of us have to work to get over.

There are many sexuality professionals who can help you take control of your personal power. Use sex for what it’s meant for: to pleasure, to heal, to relax, to explore, to play, to soothe, to comfort, to let loose and to enjoy, dammit! In no specific order of preference, my personal recommendations for further exploring your sexuality include Kim Anami, Renee Wade, Tracy Cox, Tristan Taormino, Jason Fonceca, Ian Kerner, David Deida, David Deangelo, Paige Diamond, Midnite Love and Christian Carter. You’ll find links in reference to these individuals and more on my resource page at VaginalTightening Exericises.com.

Conclusion Kegel exercises are an important aspect of daily health that transcends invasive methods of vaginal tightening surgery. Performing your kegel exercises regularly is essential to strengthening your pelvic floor, allowing you to go throughout your day with better pelvic continence (no diapers!), enhanced sexual sensitivity, and improved orgasmic abilities. I hope you’ve enjoyed this book. Please be advised that I devote time to readers and encourage feedback – both positive and constructively critical – about my work. If you feel this book has truly helped you in any way, please leave a 5 star review on Amazon telling others about your experience. If you’re unhappy with this book, please leave detailed information as to why you’re displeased and I will take your thoughts into consideration. Please also be advised that I am frequently updating my products with information as I uncover it and deem it necessary to share. This can happen once a month, every few months or over the course of a year. I’m never against accepting information from readers and professionals, provided that testimonies and experiences aside, I receive supportive information to sustain information provided. To learn more about vaginal tightening and female sexuality, keep up with me at VaginalTighteningExercises.com – and email me

personally: [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you – and I will respond personally to as many inquiries as possible. Thank you and happy kegeling! XXoXo Eva

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